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{{{TxMom}}} like you, my H travelled quite a lot for work and he worked long hours so in the past the kids didn't see him very much during the week so in fact, it's not much different from before that's why they don't know any different.

Thanks to Sonshyn and Karen43 for stopping by. Your words of kindness are a real pick-me-up. I am trying very hard to live by the advice I give to others here. Writing just solidifies my commitment to DB principles so it helps me a lot.

I am a very persistent person. Some would say stubborn. It's a good/bad thing but it's just the way I am. I think my family has given up on my H ever coming back but I have not. I really believe that once his eyes are open, he will see that what we had in the past and the kids we have now are totally worth another try. When this A subsides, he will see. I understand that he has feelings for this other person and it hurts so bad that it's unbearable. But my stubborness refuses to let me to back down and roll over and give up. I will not let his A or my H's issues and my own flaws ruin my M. I will not run away home and cry and hide when I am the rightful wife. I will not give up fighting for a father for my kids.

Time is on my side. I will wait and watch. I will focus on me and doing things that make me happy. I will get back to my old happy, secure self, without my H's help. I don't believe this OW is better than me. I don't believe that she can love him better than me. Just by the fact that she is going around with a married man tells me that she is selfish and a thief. I am much better than that. One day when H is not so busy escaping from our R and its issues, he will see.

Sandi2, are you there? Is there anything else I can do? I would like him to notice me again but don't know how to go about it. I think he might have MLC symptoms and has had depression issues. But I would like him to see me in a new light and not the same old unhappy wife that he has in mind. I am now looking better than I have in 10 years, dressing better and always has a smile on my face. Any other suggestions from you in hugely appreciated :-)