My response to her asking about living arrangements will be "I have thought about it and it is not what I want or want to see, but where are you going to go?"
PERFECT! It has a certain . . . flair, don'tchathink??
My wife last year, when I served her, she countered with wanting "immediate, temporary and sole occupancy of the marital residence." Meaning, she tried to kick me out (knowing I had no money to get a place to live.)
When I told her how offended I was that that was in there, she said "Oh, that's just something the lawyer put in without me knowing it." and then "You can always say 'no' to anything that's in there."
I just looked at her, said "The lawyer works for YOU, and there shouldn't be anything in there that you don't WANT in there, and -- for the record -- "NO". "
(((LIS))) I think when they are in fantasy land it spills over into everything. I am sorry that this is coming to head right now in time for Christmas. Hugs.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
{{{LIS}}} Ugh..the fun never ends eh?? Sounds like you are right tho that it's not your problem..and OF COURSE she will say that it is..your fault for not just giving her everything, handing it to her on a silver platter and smiling and saying "yes dear" while doing it
Again..I do think it stinks as a "merry christmas" kinda deal..but the fog is thick no matter what time of the year it is isn't it?
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Still keeping up with your sitch and still sorry you're going through this.
When my H filed he put down the wrong wedding date! And when I asked him if he realized I only had 30 days to respond he said "I didn't read the damn thing, I figured they were all the same".
Stay strong.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
(((kat))), (((Tawnya))), (((Silver))) and Puppy, thanks for stopping. I am hangin in. Working on the response - really hard to believe some of the cr@p in there. She will get a nice Christmas present if I time it right.
Had a typical convo tonite. With Hawaii cancelled, the idea was to take k's to Arizona to vac property. I would take them for a few days and then W and I would switch but S13 would come back with me for hockey.
Well, didn't work out due to timing b/c k's want to go see cousins at IL's place at Xmas. I was staying here.
Well today I decided that I was going to go to AZ myself for a few days. So I went to W.
Me: W, have you decided when you and k's are coming back from IL's?
W: no, why?
Me: well I decided to go to AZ and I want to kno when k's will be home so I can plan flights accordingly.
W: you are going? With who?
Me: for now just me.
W: well what if k's and I were going down?
Me: well I guess we will all be there together.
W: whatever
Me: ok thanks
I leave but S13 calls me a few minutes later saying mom wants to talk to you.
W: that was really selfish. All about you again
Me: not sure what you mean W. You and k's are going to IL's and my mom and sister have other plans Xmas day so I decided to go to AZ.
W: well what if k's and I were not staying at IL's. But carrying on to AZ
Me: well after disc the other day that was not the plan so I decided to go anyway.
W: sure all about you once again.
Me: don't know why you think that W but believe what you want.
Some other banter - more of the same. Was accused of "going behinh her back" in talking to the k's about AZ - well that is what she wanted me to do (talk to the k's about it) but I guess she forgot about that part.
Me: I am going to my office downtown
W: actually I am going out. I made my plans before you did.
Me: I have to go grab my cmpt
W: I made plans and you have to stay home.
Me: oh I see - all about you eh?
W: yup this time it is.
W then calls D11 and says to call her if they are left alone. D11 says it is early, S13 is home and I have 2 friends over - we'd be fine. W says call me if you are left alone.
I tell W I will be home in 20 minutes. W leaves. I say to D11 I will be right back. Her response - "no problem dad".
Typical typical typical.
I booked my flights tonight.
Last edited by lost_in_space; 12/21/0807:50 AM.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
