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Jack- Between the multicar and the new location of the vehicle, it's more like upwards of $300.

Are YOU paying for her insurance?

Or did just your (all by yourself) insurance go up?

The insurance on the car she drives went up because it is garaged in a different locality.

I've decided to pay the insurance hike myself. I figure if either my W is serious about a D, and/or she truly feels she needs to go out and get her own insurance, then her removal of the car from the policy will make the rates go down soon enough.

If, on the other hand, she doesn't/can't get new insurance, I don't feel the need to punish her. Just because she is acting stupidly and MLCey doesn't mean that I need to sink to her level. She is still my W, and as long as that is the case I will do what I can to be there for her, even if only behind the scenes where she will never see. I need to step up and be the responsible one here since she can't.

Jimbo, I don't disagree with your position, just be careful that she doesn't take advantage of your generousity.

Jimbo, Not knowing your sitch, also remember with the insurance what do you have to loose & what other ramifications could there be?? I don't think insurance is required in my state ... but I have many assets to loose if my H's car isn't covered & something happens. So .... I foot the bill & keep silent. One other thing my H can feel guilty about (although, I'm not trying to make him feel guilty).

Well, it looks like it's time for a little psychology experiment....

I came home two nights ago to a mail forwarding notification. Mail is now being forwarded for W or "resident occupant".

Should be interesting to see if items that have both our names on them wind up in her mailbox, too.

Since I don't think her little MLC brain has thought this through, it will also be interesting to see if she pays the insurance bill that was billed to that CC that comes to the house in her name....

OK- I have no idea what to make of this....

I just got an email from her saying "This is a reminder that the shops estimated tax payment is due to the IRS and VA Dept. of Taxation by Jan. 15."

(We have a family business- W always did the books)

This is the first real uninitiated contact I've had since I went dark in the beginning of November. I guess she's "protecting her interests" until the D is filed and goes through?

Or would this be considered enough "contact" to try to initiate something?

Hey Jimbo,

How the heck are ya?! Just a reminder, you haven't been served with any papers yet, so nothing is going through at this point.

It sounds like this has to be taken care of anyway.

Positivity my friend. From one hamster wheel to another.

One day at a time.

Exactly my point. Why is she going out of her way to mention it? I have been taking care of the shop bookkeeping since she left in October.

Do you think this is a feeler that I should bite on?

It, may be a feeler or it may be just a reminder. No matter how much we spin and try to figure it out we will never know. Would there be a reason to contact? Do you need any info. from her?