Mike just because you have found F*cktards in the past, doesn't mean that they are your future. Besides, it sounds like you could probably give a seminar on how to be a "great date."
Originally Posted By: Kalni
Going back to gestures... I am a woman that has not been very demanding. Gestures, gifts, words had become "unecessary" in my M. From my H's side. I would still buy him gifts, cook his favourite dinner, wear sexy lingerie (despite the fact he laughed looking at me in those)and be "good" to him etc. etc.
Not everything I did was because it was my "favourite" thing to do (taking his suits at the cleaners in the morning when I was always late at work wasnt my best thing, but it would allow him to sleep in and it was worth the effort).
Guess what? After a while the relatiosnship became... lazy. And I got lazy too. I never expected him to go out of his way for me, with a surprise, a gift, an "extra" thoughtful gesture. An I thought I was over "these things". But in restrospective, it did matter. It mattered so much. Because these things "feed" love.
For me doing things for the one I love is a great staisfaction. Because I can "see" his smile, hear the thrill in his voice even beforehand. So the gesture per se, may not be what I like, but the result is what I enjoy the most.
Mike, women do appreciate these things. And you know what? When they are mature enough and not selfcentered they appreciate the "thought" behind the gesture even if the gesture sometimes is a bit ...off. K
Kalni got it EXACTLY right.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Friday evening I went to MHS38 shop at her request. She wanted to see me..2 of her kids went with their dad for visitation..He oldest son did not. I ended up meeting her and her oldest son out at a local restaurant. Her oldest is quite a magician and showed me quite a few tricks. We had a good time. Her oldest son thinks I'm cool..a good thing..After we parted I went to a local high school BB game..Saturday I ended up going Outlet shopping about 1.5 hours from my house. Came home and just chilled last night..lots of texting/long phone convo's with MHS38..today..a Xmas party at a former bosses house..going alone but should be lots of fun..If things can be worked out I'll see MHS38 tomorrow and Tuesday..we will see..
The juggling has stopped for a bit..I felt no connection with CSR38 and she was chasing a bit..so I told her I needed to move forward. It's the right thing to do.
The juggling has stopped for a bit..I felt no connection with CSR38 and she was chasing a bit..so I told her I needed to move forward. It's the right thing to do.
Mike, your a stand up guy...very honorable thing to do.
So yesterday ..MHS38 calls me just after church..shes going to a local mall to buy her middle son new shoes and wants me to meee tthem there so I can meet the middle son and youngest daughter..so I do that and do some shopping..tagging along with them attempting to engage the middle son and youngeast D..the middle son by the end of the day things I'm cool..the youngest D..well more work to do...which I had predicted might happen..I may havwe to enlist Caleigh's help a bit at some point..went to the ex-bosses party after..alone..it was Ok..I was alone which sucked..but what ya gonna do...turn on the charm..
Wifey--sorry I could not help you more last night when you called..move forward, don't get stuck.
the clock went off..my feet hit the floor and I took a step..work is slow. I may take off part of the day today..I have 5 hours vacation I must take or lose before next Monday..
Today..MHS38 just happens to be off on Monday, and what better day for me to take vacation than on a Monday
I just purchased tickets to see 3 Doors Down and Hinder in Johnson City Tennessee on Jan. 24th.. BoooooYEAH..
and it's funny how things work...remember Golfcoursebeveragegirl I met a couple months back..she sent me an email this monring at work..says she has been really sick and does not deal with the holidays very well..wants to know if we can have dinner after Xmas..
Life is good
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 12/15/0801:21 PM.
and what better day for me to take vacation than on a Monday 