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Re: Accepting the ILYBNILWY Puppy Dog Tails #1663110 12/02/08 02:17 PM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 488 Chicago (south subs) C carpenter54 OP Member
OP carpenter54 Member C Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 488 Chicago (south subs)	PDT I have no real "control" over her actions....she is an adult...if this is how she wants to act....so be it. Disrespectful...yes...does she care...probably not! She knows I journal everything....just another + in my column. As far as the locks...it is still "her" house also still...I have no "legal" reason to lock her out....if I think of it...next time I will wake up the kids and have them by the door when she gets in....she can stand there and "disrespect" them....good that seems cruel when I read it!! H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9 6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM 7-16thru7-18 she tried didnt work! 8-17 home (just for kids until the end??)

Re: Accepting the ILYBNILWY carpenter54 #1663112 12/02/08 02:21 PM
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Phoenixdeux Member P Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 1,948 ND	Carpenter, I make nothing of anything that went on....except maybe staying out all night...that was probably something (bad). So she brought you a cup of wine. So she was nice for 30 minutes. So she texted you her uncle's pic. If she really wants to make a go of this marriage, she'll let you know with more than a glass of wine. How about just being who you are, enjoy what you do have, and not even worry about her for now? You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer

Re: Accepting the ILYBNILWY Phoenixdeux #1663113 12/02/08 02:22 PM
Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 2,556 NC T Tawnya Member
Tawnya Member T Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 2,556 NC	{{{carp}}}} I'm glad you had a pretty "boring" weekend as far as the interactions go and nothing crazy went down for you.. Hope you are having a good day! Tawnya Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four

Re: Accepting the ILYBNILWY Tawnya #1663123 12/02/08 02:28 PM
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OP carpenter54 Member C Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 488 Chicago (south subs)	Phoenix I am in no way "hanging" on anything she does...just recounting her "strangeness". I am just living life.. Lately I feel more like an "observer" when we interact and less like a "participant". H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9 6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM 7-16thru7-18 she tried didnt work! 8-17 home (just for kids until the end??)

Re: Accepting the ILYBNILWY carpenter54 #1663127 12/02/08 02:30 PM
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Puppy Dog Tails Member P Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 18,296	Originally Posted By: carpenter54 PDT I have no real "control" over her actions....she is an adult...if this is how she wants to act....so be it. No, you cannot control her actions. But you CAN control the consequences somewhat. I'm not seeing where there are any. I did the "all-the-lights-out/house-locked-up-tight" thing exactly ONCE with my wife, when she stayed out past 1am on the 4th of July. She never did it again.

Re: Accepting the ILYBNILWY Puppy Dog Tails #1663131 12/02/08 02:32 PM
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OP carpenter54 Member C Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 488 Chicago (south subs)	Not to be rude....she has a key. H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9 6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM 7-16thru7-18 she tried didnt work! 8-17 home (just for kids until the end??)

Re: Accepting the ILYBNILWY carpenter54 #1663140 12/02/08 02:43 PM
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Puppy Dog Tails Member P Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 18,296	So did my wife. She was able to get it, but it was just a "message received" thing.

Re: Accepting the ILYBNILWY carpenter54 #1663148 12/02/08 02:50 PM
Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 1,948 ND P Phoenixdeux Member
Phoenixdeux Member P Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 1,948 ND	Quote: Lately I feel more like an "observer" when we interact and less like a "participant". Good. Make sure you also spend a fair amount of time "observing" more interesting things. You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer

Re: Accepting the ILYBNILWY Phoenixdeux #1663151 12/02/08 02:53 PM
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OP carpenter54 Member C Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 488 Chicago (south subs)	PDT I get your drift.... Phoenix Rest assured my "observation" skills are improving..LOL H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9 6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM 7-16thru7-18 she tried didnt work! 8-17 home (just for kids until the end??)

Re: Accepting the ILYBNILWY carpenter54 #1664441 12/03/08 04:18 PM
Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 2,556 NC T Tawnya Member
Tawnya Member T Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 2,556 NC	{{{Carp}}} Stopping in to say good morning..hope you are having a good one! Tawnya Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four

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