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Happiness and peace are priceless.... Money is secondary; you can always make more money later.

You know we would still love to have you in Kansas! How about 8 your time, 7 mine? That way I can get the kids fed, dishes done and hopefully all the homework finished before we watch.

kat

Hey Karen, sorry things didn't go better with the L's but sometimes you can't put a price on peace and you got your kids, so it was a win.

FWIW I pray for you all the time, too. ((((hugs))))

Thanks y'all. Ok I maybe did something horrible today, maybe a couple things. H showed up at D9's OT time and went to OT with us. That was fun. Not. He used the time to tell me I'm slowing down the court case & running up the lawyer fees by insisting on hsing. Of course, I look at it that he is just as guilty as I am by insisting on public schooling and me moving to his town to do that. (Schools in our town super suck). So finally I smartened up and left him and said you'll bring D9 back right? and left. Wish I'd thought of that 10 minutes sooner.

Then I have no money until I get the first alimony/child support payment--my L is trying to get it asap. D9 has medicine she needs for $40 and the therapy for the kids tomorrow is $50. Although I realized later that my therapist will float me a one week loan until the payment comes in next week so that's good

Anyway H said he would leave it for me if I wrote a receipt for him so he could deduct it from the child support. I said Go write it yourself! I just wouldn't do it, so he didn't leave the money for the kids. I'm sure he blames me for that thinking all he wanted was a little receipt, but I'm just so tired of his crap.

When he came over today and was harassing me about how I'm denying reality about the house and the homeschooling and everything, (of course I think he's doing the same or more so by thinking hsing has cured the kid's autism and dyslexia.) I called him an idiot. The judge told him to get his stuff from the house and he was doing that and started a pile on the kitchen floor and I stuck a closet full of his crap on the top. Then I felt a little better. So that was my day.

Karen

I responded to you on my thread before i got here. It will get better I promise, even with the bankruptcy. But I still don't see you having to do it. Let him deal with his mess.

kat

Karen,

You're just a little closer to putting your H's insanity behind you, to the back of your life and off your mind, finally.

You will make it.

Hugs and prayers.

I know, and I will be so much better off without H in my life!!! I do have a $ question though: Ok, the judge awarded me temp. alimony of $1200 altho my bills/expenses and I mean just basic food, utility, is at least $1900 so about $700 short. H gets $2400 a month twice me I guess with the theory that he has lots of credit card bills and student loan debt and the mortgage. The judge told him not to pay my car loan or the mortgage and to file for bankruptcy. He's run up so much credit card debt this year he increased it from something like $10,000 to $40,000 in the past year starting when he started the affair. The question is: if he is filing for bankruptcy, they are trying to get me to file with him to discharge his debts, I'm thinking he's not actually paying those credit card debts. His actual basic bills are about $400 rent, $100 car payment, and maybe the cell phone bill. Doesn't have computer (uses OWs and his friend's) or cable tv (same thing.) or any other bills. So if he's not paying his bills as I suspect probably has over $1500 a month spending money and I'm $700 short each month. Can that be right?

Karen

karen, what do your bills consist of? The ones that you say come out to approx $2600. Is the mortgage and car loan included in that? Is that credit card bills?

Also is the $1200 just alimony? Or is that chilsd support too?

kat