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Morning Hope, I remember that section, I try but it is hard. Back to the rubber band.

Oh TD,

Thank you, thank you. I have missed your wisdom and humor. You are the only one that has been able to make me cry and smile at the same time. Thank you my friend. Your workds are the sweetest Holiday gift.

I am so happy that things are well with you. I think of you and your family often, and you are always in my prayers.

Hearing from you today, at this time was a blessing and a great gift. I know that I can be strong now.

morning namesake. sorry about your nite!! I so wish we lived closer to eachother. its so windy here today, i am sure no hunters were out this opening morning.

I like that quote, i forgot about it all together. its hard to do that, and its hard to not be angry. baby steps I guess.

Hey Hope, Just checking to see how you are doing?

I'm doing ok. It has been busy at work today and then we had a big Holiday luncheon at the University. After work this evening I am going with my boss to meet some business folks for drinks.

My H called before lunch and we were able to have some good conversation. I reminded him of my luncheon and also told him that I thought I would go after for the drinks this evening. I had made a deal with myself that if he had called me I would let him know, but if he didn't I wouldn't pursue him, but just go and GAL on my own. I'm glad he called, things worked out pretty well. One of the things we discussed...I told him that I was going to gather all of my strength and stop talking about the OW. He said that if I could really try and do that, we would make it thru this and be alright. He told me he would try to be understanding and more supportive. I told him that I was going to need support and affection from him, and he said he would give it. exhale!

I know it will still be rough, but I do feel some relief and yes, HOPE!

I want to thank all of you for your love and support the past few weeks. I know that I have not been there for you guys as much as I would like, but I really have not been thinking all that clearly. As I get stronger and refocused I will give more back to you.

Kel, I did a little shredding ritual this morning at my office and I will tell you all about it tomorrow. Not the pics yet, but something else. I felt immediately better.

BG I am thinking and praying for you too. I know that you have a huge hurt that you are dealing with, and you are just a baby girl. I know that you also have a huge heart and lots of love to share. You will figure out what you need to do and God will give you the grace to follow it thru.

MT, you my friend are also in my prayers. I think that I worry about you the most right now because I can feel the hurt that you are not expressing yet. Keep reading the tough love book and then read it again. I can honestly say that this and the DB book have changed my life. We might be out numbered by the evil OW that try to destroy a M, but we won't give in without a fight.

Love you all and I will check on you soon.

Hope, Glad to hear you are going to have a great time tonight! Focus on yourself right now, the rest of us will be OK. You are a great friend!!

Thank you for everything, you have given! I will keep reading!

Hope just trying to catch up. You are doing good. Can't wait to hear about the shredding. I'm glad it made you feel better a little anyway. How something so simple could make you feel better I don't really understand but sometimes it works so I never argue it. I just love smashing coffee cups. Don't do it often at all but once in a while... LOL

Told MT the rollercoaster is suddenly making a small uturn but I remembered something else about the conversation as I was reading the last couple pages here. The infidelity thing you posted. Last night while H was making the big I'm wondering but dont' think it would work speech, after I calmed down, I did yell a little LOL, I told him, I still love you, something else I can't remember exactly, but he said "see-you are climbing all over me again." Simply by telling him even though I have to move forward, that I haven't slammed the door yet. It was like the slightest thought of committing to anything made him want to run. Even thinking about committing to anything. Wierd. So now he is thinking. Done worrying about what will happen. That has been where I've been heading lately. Anyway, now I forgot what my point was. I'm sure you'll get it.

Have a great day, I need more coffee

Morning ladies, it is only 26 here today and we are getting light snow. The roads were so slick this morning that a car lost control right in front of our house, rolled over 3 times and landed in the field. H was out loading salt when it happened. He ran over and had to smash the windows to get the woman out. She was not badly hurt, but very shook up. Lots of emergency service vehicles so it took me a while to get out of my drive. Jeesh....why don't people slow down? Turns out there was a layer of ice under the loose snow that is falling.

My shredding ritual was nice yesterday. I took the thank you note that I have been saving and lately carying around with me. I posted it here a couple of days ago. Anyway, it was such a huge sorce of hurt and betrayal for me, so I prayed my favorite prayers and then took it into our copy room and ran it thru our shredder. Gone. And it was amazing. The hurt that she caused with the hypocrisy of her words was gone. I still have pain from her betrayal, but her forked tongued words don't have power over me any more. She is a stupid, insincere woman without the ability to look beyond her own narcissistic wants. I have shredded her words, and very soon I shall shred her face. She will be out of my life, forever.

Kel, don't worry too much about his climbing all over me again comment. That is still the MLC control thing. My own H said something similar the other day and it was a sudden jerk back for me to his tunnel. Later in the day when he called me to tell me that he had to go and complete his talent bank stuff on line at their location I calmly told him that was the reason that I suggested he go there in the first place to do it. I was not trying to "control" him, merely help him get the task done in the easiest way possible. I suspected that he would have trouble doing it from home and would need their one on one assistance. It had nothing to do with control. He understood.

They will go in and out of the tunnel for some time to come. It isn't as bad as it once was and the time out of the tunnell gets to be better and happier all the time.

Morning Hope-

That shredding sounds like a great way to take care of some good frustrations!!

Icy roads are always so scary!! My Mom and Dad live in Alaska and on the top of a hill, it was normal to have to take multiple tries to make it up the hill, as they would slide back down. I don't think I would ever want to live there!!!!

How was your night out last night?

morning girlie. thanks for the prayers, I am praying for you too! it was down in the teens this morning, YUCKO! I am so proud of you for shredding it! you go girl. wish i could do something like that.
the accident sounds so scary. i rolled my car a few years back, and it was damn scary.