Congrats?? Not sure if that is correct....but that's how you "sound"??
You know.. I have a little sadness. It's not easy to hear the woman that you love describe good qualities in a man that she has chosen outside of the marriage. And to put forth the idea that she thinks God might be leading her to this; gimme a break.
When she asked why my commitment to her has been so strong; I replied that I made a VOW before God that I had intended to keep. She stated that she didn't. I told her, "YES YOU DID. You were standing right there with me when I made mine." She further stated, "Well I didn't know what I was getting into. I had never been exposed." I guess the three pre-wedding sessions with the minister didn't explain it. Somehow she implied that the marriage was a mistake from the beginning except for our kids. I first I was offended; but really I have said the same thing before in different words and context.
So, yes, I am relieved. I've got some great support from her family and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I don't deserve to be treated like that anymore. Yet, I still feel sadness for what is lost. Oh well. pity party over. now I need a beer!!!
Don't know what to say really. What are you planning to do from here? I would recommend following Puppy's advice. Hopefully it all works out how you want it to in the end.
I plan on getting the financial stuff that I have to have taken care of before the D completed and then I'll file.
{{{{{{Tom}}}}}}}} I have nothing to say except that I'm here, we are all here, to hug and laugh and cry and whatever you need my friend! I'm glad, at LEAST, that things are out in the open so that you KNOW what you are dealing with and what you are doing.
Tawnya
Yes, Tawnya. I know what I'm dealing with and frankly have for some time. But to have it blatantly flaunted in front of you and described to you like I was just one the ho's that hang out with her; well it's indescribable.
Tom--Criminy, things change in a hurry don't they? I don't know what to say, sorry, congrats... You and I have walked in kindred shoes, so I feel some sadness mixed with relief for what you are going through. I envy you being with the kids. I am here, you have my address if you want to talk in the real world.
LE
Thanks, LE. I might take you up on that one of these days. I also feel that have walked in kindred shoes. And I kinda feel guilty that I have my kids and you don't; kinda like survivor's guilt, ya know?
But like the Doors say "Break on through to the other side."
Today, W got the kids off to school this morning. I was able to get my software update completed.
She called me later in the day to tell me that she called off from work so that she could finish a Psych project for extra credit since she missed a few classes last week and did poorly on her exam this morning.
So that meant she was here when the kids and I got home. She just started to leave as we got out of my SUV. The kids were disappointed that she was leaving. She did help get in the stuff I bought at Costco and she help D4 try on the new jacket that I bought her.
Within 15 min of our arrival, she was out the door. Said she'd be back in the morning to help with the kids.
SIL had been texting me all day with a barrage of ranting over what's the W is doing. She has been sending me info she's researched concerning D in my state. She's very concerned about me allowing the W to get too much money and skate out of the D without much worry. I definitely appreciate the support that everyone here and my SIL has given me; because left to my own devices I might be too nice just to get out of this with the kids.
Tomorrow's another day. One Day at a Time, right breakaway..
{{{Tom}}}} I know it is indescribeable and, you are so right, you DON"T deserve to be treated like that ever and certainly not anymore!! You are a good man and a great father and a good husband to stand for your marriage for as long as you did and, in my opinion and most of the gals/guys on here I'm sure, your wife is STUPID to leave someone who cares so much and has given so much of himself day in and day out..
However, your kids are super lucky indeed to have your for their dad
Tawnya
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Remember the financial aspect of the divorce is not just you versus your wife. With you having full custody it becomes you and your kids versus the wife. Make sure your kids are taken care of financially thru you!!! Your wife wants to be single and a part-time mom....she can do it with the money in her purse and pay child support.
Hi MC. - I uess emotions a little mixed. Relief, saddness . it is such a crappy selfish time of the year to be doing this to the kids.
I know this is nasty but I hope she does look back in a few yers and realises what she has lost. And in that time , you would of found the woman you deserve who is caring and loving your kids as well as appreciating the man in you.
