Okay, so I admit that even I, a hopeless romantic, find some jewellery commercials cheezy. However, it makes me sad that I don't have anyone to spoil with little blue boxes or special little presents this year. Probably a good thing since I may be out of work soon.
I love the romance associated with christmas and special gift giving.
I agree with you on the special gift giving issue..., that is easy to say when you do not have an intended receiver (how is that for a little football lingo on Sunday? :-)
Christmas should be all about kids and it will be for me this year for sure...unless I get lucky in the next 24 days!!!!
So, I didn't sleep last night. I spent the night thinking, planning and rationalizing my situation. It's what I do.
Most of this won't make sense to you all, but here goes:
I'm pretty sure letting me go is one of the dumber things my company could do in this situation. I can't go into why but it will cause a chain of events that I don't think they want to deal with including a couple deals I'm in the middle of and tainting the chance they have to make two key hires that I'm very involved in. Seriously how good a selling point is it if you make one mistake and you are gone. That being said, given the personality of the individual making the decision it may not matter.
Which brings me to that person... honestly I have never in my career worked with/for a person like this. I don't trust this person and not like this person's motivations. So, afterall it might be a good thing for me to be gone. It would lower my stress a great deal.
Plus, I would enjoy the time off. Ski season is right around the bend and I already have my season pass. So, skiing is "free". I can sleep in for a while and avoid dealing with a bunch of crap at work in the short term.
The downsides are I have to move and leave my kids and I have to explain to potential employers why I left the current job...That will be fun without appearing bitter.
Well, the ex and I just had one of the longest talks we’ve had since the “I want a divorce” talk. Here is a brief recap and I’m sure I’m forgetting something.
She is sorry I’ve had “a bad year”. She knows she caused a lot of my hurt in the past year. She doesn’t want me to move. She said the kids need me and she knows that more than ever now. She doesn’t want to move the kids. They are doing so well in school, have great friends and are very happy.
But, she will move them and come with me if I move far enough away that I won’t be able to see the kids often. The one condition is that I take a job where I’ll be home enough to spend quality and quantity time with the kids.
I asked about her life here. She said that there isn’t anything serious enough to stay here for her. Nick isn’t enough of a reason to stay. I was shocked. I had thought they were serious. She said that she really doesn’t have a social life here and all of her friends abandoned her with the divorce (I knew this already). And she can’t find a job here at all.
We talked about what’s next. About timing and how everything would come together. We talked about how she is happier now than she has been in the past few years and how she was miserable before the divorce/separation. She said it wasn’t me that made her miserable, she just was unhappy and needed to do something completely different to change her life. She said that she wants me to be happy and knows that losing the kids would make me miserable.
We both agreed that we want to do what’s right for the kids. Whether it’s moving or not moving we will figure that out when we know what’s happening with my job. And there where I might go next.
I have to say that it’s nice to know that she still believes in me. She wasn’t angry or sad. She is concerned about me and more importantly the kids. And she told me I’m a great dad…..
