How are you doing today my sunny friend? Don't let tomorrow bother you, you are going to be fine. Just think of all of us right there with you and your glass eating L and your H squirming over there with just his L. Or if all else fails, picture them in their underwear!!
kat
Okay, that's just gross. Lawyers in their underwear...
I hope so, it sounds scary. It's going to be in the Judge's chambers and I'll have to sit across from H and get questioned by both Ls. And you know he won't be honest judging from his past behavior. I guess I want to try to remain emotionless or something though when he does that and not roll my eyes or something like I might be tempted to?
I have the hearing for temp. custody and child support and alimony tomorrow at 9:30 am so if anyone can pray for me tonight or tomorrow am I'd really appreciate it!!!
Karen, You as well as all of my DBing friends are always in my prayers, but I'll say a specific little prayer for you.
You will do fine. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what a wonderful mother you are. I bet your lawyer will stump H with questions about the children's education and disabilities that you can easily answer. I'm sure he knows very little about their performance levels. He doesn't seem to be very hands on when it comes to their education.
When it comes to education you are an expert, after all you do have a teaching degree! When it comes to parenting, you are an expert at that too!
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Guys I just got back. It was pretty bad. The good news which really is good is that H didn't have any arguments wanting the kids so I guess will leave it at the one night a week and 2 hours on Tuesday. That is cool!
The judge was late so the 2 attorneys figured out stuff ahead of time. I will have about $800 less than I need to live on. H is declaring bankruptcy and I have to file with him jointly. My L is going to try to have him make the car payment for my agreement for that. That would help out some of the $800. It just so irritates me that he's been putting everything on credit card this past year and so the judge thinks he's poor H even though he makes almost $90,000 a year. H is still going out and spending $50 a pop at restaurants or movies almost every day though. He hasn't changed his standard of living at all. His girlfriend's house is way nicer than mine (according to the kids). I live in a broken-down house with no heat and no restaurants and no additional spending other than bills and food. What did he do with the cash from paying everything on credit card? My L brought out that he was involved in an adulterous affair, and the Judge said that doesn't matter (legally by the statute) but he will consider it anyway. I think the L said I had about $375 a month for rent now! So don't know what will happen.
H is going to put the house into foreclosure so I guess I have 2 months or so to move out before they repossess it or whatever.
Funny stuff to me anyway is that there was a woman there in the waiting room with H and I and I guess b/c I'm friendly with H she thought we were married, so I walked in on the tail end of her telling H how pretty I looked in my purple dress. I wonder what he was saying to that. My L said he's so ugly and horrible personality and I'm so much more attractive, she can't understand why I stayed with him. I'm asking that myself now!!!
When we first got there H was looking at me all nasty and wouldn't talk to me. I did a quick prayer, and I felt led to ask him if he wanted to borrow the prayer book I had brought with me. He said no, since I want the L's to handle everything, he basically doesn't want to talk to me. I continued to be nice and friendly to him and everyone; I'll try to just ignore him politely from now on though I guess?
Oh, H had told me at the start of this year, he wanted to live with OW so he could spend time with the kids and OW. My lawyer brought that up and he said he never said that!!! He's such a liar!!! Karen
When we first got there H was looking at me all nasty and wouldn't talk to me. I did a quick prayer, and I felt led to ask him if he wanted to borrow the prayer book I had brought with me. He said no, since I want the L's to handle everything, he basically doesn't want to talk to me. I continued to be nice and friendly to him and everyone; I'll try to just ignore him politely from now on though I guess?
I think that was a very classy, and obedient (to God) thing to do, Karen, in very difficult circumstances.
I don't think your witness will go unnoticed by your husband. Certainly not by God.
I'm glad this stressful meeting is behind you now. And I bet you DID look beautiful in your purple dress!
Oh Sweetie, I am sorry he is such a jerk! It sounds as if you kept your cool though. So you have to file bankruptcy before you are divorced? Why do you have to file together if everything is in his name? So even with alimony and child support you are short? Sorry we are in the same boat.
I got Hancock yesterday but had the Christmas performance for D9 last night, do you want to try tonight?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Oh Sweetie, I am sorry he is such a jerk! It sounds as if you kept your cool though. So you have to file bankruptcy before you are divorced? Why do you have to file together if everything is in his name? So even with alimony and child support you are short? Sorry we are in the same boat.
I got Hancock yesterday but had the Christmas performance for D9 last night, do you want to try tonight?
kat
That's a great idea about Hancock!!!! Perfect!!! What time is good for you. The kids and i have tkd but should be back by about 7:15 so anytime after 7:30 or so is great with me. I think I was posting on your thread while you were on mine!!!
Have to file together b/c H makes too much money to file without me as an added dependent. I'm going to severely cut down everything as much as I can even more than before. I'm going to quit seeing my C and just have the kids see her, and hopefully if she says D9 is ok maybe she can finish soon too. Maybe I can find a small house or something that I can rent that won't be too much. Even with all this going on I probably am still better off not having H in my life. Karen
