Haaaaaaaa, methinks it needs a womans touch, unless you want a batchelor pad effect.
I have never yet lived in a house with enough storage space, oh well yes once but I SOON managed to fill it.Ha. I was/ am a bit of a horder but try not to be-it's hard.
I got back in, she was getting in bed, she seemed to be looking for something, so I asked if there was something wrong. She kind of grunted, I said, "Sorry, I thought you were looking for something"
Hmmm.....Maybe nothing was wrong at all...???
Whenever my H would ask me, "Is something wrong/What's wrong/etc?", I have to be honest...it would bother me. The presumption seemed to be that something had to be wrong, when in fact many times nothing was. Why H felt that way or had to ask - I do not know - but from your W's reaction (the 'grunt'), it seems something got to her, too. Can't say what though. *Shrug*
Anyhow, maybe the next time something seems 'wrong', you could try asking "Need help with anything?" or "Is there anything I can get/do for you?" Just a thought.
I like the door panels! I think you should get them, and the bedskirt wouldn't be a bad idea either.
(((((Jeff)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
I think the bedroom looks great- plenty of room for all my socks!
Your W definitely will have noticed the changes, but I bet she needs some time to process and think through. She's probably a bit suspicious of the changes and not sure what to make of them- I know I would be if my H all of a sudden started behaving differently.
Has there been any further comment on the letter?
I hope you had a GREAT thankgiving! I didn't have much time to post during the week, but I'm so grateful for all the help, support and smiles you've given me over the past year- can you believe it's almost a year since we met, BTW? Thankyou!
(((((GF))))) I don't remmeber for sure, I might have just said, "what are you looking for?" But, either way, if she wanted help, she would have asked for it.
((((((Lisa)))))) Lots of room for socks! Or not!
She may be thinking, I don't know. Maybe someday I will find out! You'd notice what your H does, but you actually care about him!
She hasn't said anything more about the letter. Either because of the holiday, and the guests, of because she hopes it will blow over. Or she just isn't ready. Or something else altogether!
We're celebrating today, so I have been cooking pies. I was in the kitchen making pies, minding my own business, and I looked out in the family room to see three college freshman girls playing Twister with my 10 year old son! I guess there are advantages to being 10!
But, either way, if she wanted help, she would have asked for it.
Just because she usually does end up asking for help, doesn't mean she didn't want help other times. Matter of fact, it's entirely possible that she often resents having to ask.
One, because she thinks it should be obvious that she needs help.
Two, because she feels it would be polite/considerate to ask if she needs anything from time to time w/o her having to initiate it.
Is it realistic? Not really. We're not good mind readers. But remember her feelings could be there regardless of how realistic they are.
(((((((Jeff))))))))
Have fun tonight!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So funny about your son.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
It seems that she resents it more when I ask if she needs something than if i don't. But, to some degree it is a no win situation. Since I should know when she needs something. She really doesn't like it when I do something for her without asking. Though maybe I should try that more? Hmmmmmmm.......
Dinner saw good. Everything was tasty, and I was careful not too eat too much. At least, I only ate about twice what I should have, and not three or four times!
The girls are having a blast playing with S10 and S14..... it's fun to watch! I don't know what it is, big sister or mother instinct! But they are getting along great!
I'm home alone for a bit, in a shuffle of cars and people, and leftovers! The cat is in my lap, and seems quite content!
Oh, I forgot to mention, last night at about 2:30 she got up, took her pillow, and went to the sofa. Don't know why, don't really care. Don't know what her plans are tonight, but she had the little guys bring blankets out, so I expect that they will be falling asleep to a movie.
So glad you keep the PMA going.....helps me keep up mine