that was pretty smart of you, I wish I would've thought that far back then.
Had a squabble with stbx related with s10 using his phone, it got ugly and s10 got his phone taken away last night, and s10 actually told him "I hate you I don't want to come here anymore". My poor son, he is a very VERY sweet shy guy, for him to have said so to his dad must've taken a lot, stbx was being somewhat unreasonable. I know gf puts in her 2cents, what boils me is that this is the second time stbx and I agreed on something but later he does the opposite, I'm sure gf talked him out of it because he was fine when I talked to him. She is also the one who fed him the line he keeps throwing at me without any thing to back it up "your calls are disrupting, why do you have to talk to him, it's only 2 days." DISRUPTING??? I only call ONCE a day, perhaps s10 txted me when they were doing something, but that's it, I dont' "keep calling" like he puts it.
Makes me so angry she is even intruding in that bit of communication I have with him, and I very well know that if try to fight it stbx will just say "no phone then" so I had to suck it up last night and even said I was sorry for something, I dont' care anymore what i have to say, whatever I'll do I'll do it for my son.
Should I tell s10 that when he is 12 he can choose where to stay?is that going to help or will just make up his mind that he doesn't have to get used to be at his dad's? he gets so upset and is so miserable talking about going to his dads, I never thought that jerk would make my poor son suffer this much, Lord forgive me, but I hate him for that, I forgave him for the mega crap he put me through, but hurting my children is something totally different.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Should I tell s10 that when he is 12 he can choose where to stay?
Can he really choose then? I would think 2 years would be "unreal" to a 10 year old. Isn't waiting for Christmas difficult enough???
I can't believe your son is restricted from calling or texting you while he is at his dad's. That seems cruel! Hopefully you can get your son into counseling and the counselor can help in that part of communication. He should be able to call you whenever he wants; and when he is with you he should be allowed to call his dad (IF he wanted to).
