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WOW that is tough to watch K. Yep, you aren't allowed to know anything that is going on.

hey k, so uh, i will bake for you forever, if you come recover my couch lol!! pwetty pwease? it looks amazing! i am so impressed!

BG thanks. Do you know I'm doing it with chenille throw blankets? Cheaper than tapestry. And I didn't like any other fabric. I sew, crochet, cross stitch. No knitting though. No coordination with left hand so it really doesn't work.

Thanks for the compliment. So I guess I'm really not the only one who can't ask questions huh?

Morning Kel,

Well, I always knew it. When you put the four of us together you have a complete "super woman." I am ambidextrous (?). Have been my entire life. No wonder I'm mixed up huh? Anyway, I can help with your knitting, but I don't crochet, and would love to learn.

I just wanted to give you a couple of words before I take off for the morning. I have done some reading about MLC and want to tell you that it is pretty normal for you to start thinking about whether H will be worth all of this, after you have come thru the hard part. It is also normal for you to maybe start in on your own MLC. Just keep aware that your resentment may begin to surface after his issues begin to subside. Keep focused on your goal. Don't do all of the hard work, then throw everything away in the end.

Thanks for the words Hope. No I don't think any MLC here for me, at least I hope not. Just a whole lot of soul searching. I've learned so much about myself in the last few months. No more hiding you know. And I'm really looking at the big pic for me and just trying to sort my thoughts out. I've come to a point right now where I feel like I'm going to just be me and see where that takes us. I haven't been me for so long cuz I have been trying to be "right" for the M. I don't know if that makes sense but it is how I feel. I have realized that in being the "right" wife, like my grandmother, who just endured, I have given up so much of me and what I really want. What truly fulfills me. So maybe my goal has shifted a little. I'm not so focused on the outcome as I was. I am more concerned with all of us being truly happy when this is all over. If together, that is a blessing. If not, no regrets.

Just keep reminding me. But you know, the hard work will be worth it now matter what the outcome, because I'm finding me again. Maybe that is called GAL?

I can teach you how to crochet, it really is easy. And yes, I think the 4 of us equal one superwoman. LOL

Kel,

Wanted to let you know that I did the sage smudge this afternoon, then I closed the windows, lit my candles and am thinking about having a glass of wine. I feel at peace and relaxed.

H is on his way home from north. No deer, but he had a good time with his friend. He called me as I was coming home from shopping earlier this afternoon. His voice was funny, he was like whispering and he sounded a bit nervous. I asked if he was ok and he said that he was lost in the woods! I said what, you lost? You must be really far out, because you have good sense of direction, unlike me. He said, well, there is snow here, so I guess I can follow my tracks back out...ok, gotta go. I thought that was strange. I called him back a couple of hours later and he said that he had lost his direction and could not get his buddy on the cell, he got nervous and felt like he had to talk to someone, so he called. lol. He was amused at himself and I thought it was kind of funny too.

Don't forget to get your turkey out to start thawing. I did that this afternoon...have to make a menu and confirm with the girls what they are bringing. This week is going to fly by.

Have a great evening and a peaceful night!

Thanks for the reminder. Had S pull it out about an hour ago. I'm glad you did the sage smudge. It is wierd how something so simple seems to help.

Also glad that H called you even though it did sound a little strange. Sorry about the Lions. I actually missed the game cuz I was dragging around the stores and forgot it was on until it was over.

See you in the am for coffee.

I need to smudge too! great reminder thanks you two!

hey K I read the lyrics tonite to the annie lennox song Why tonite. read them if you get a chance. man they hit me, and i thought of a few of you............
dream well my dear friend

Ok BG I'll look it up after I say goodmorning to everyone.

Everyone went to bed early last night but I ended up staying awake reading so I"m pretty tired today. Guess what, late last night, one of S's friends called to see if he could go to Busch Gardens today. I'm dropping him off at 9:30. That is two out of three days that I will actually have time to myself. Who's been praying for me? LOL

Enjoy your day Kel! Sounds like it will be peaceful, if you can get S up and gone!