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Yes, what Puppy said. I agree back off, even if you can only do it a tiny bit, and see what happens... Karen

Luckily, it was mostly her talking to D7. I just sat for a few minutes, then got up and finished up dishes and stuff in the kitchen.

I kept trying to think....does she really need to spend the night? Were not making stuff from scratch. Green bean casserole...super easy. Yams...canned. Pies...She could make them at her place and bring them. The turkey....I can do that at the house. It's been me in the past to cook it, not her.

I'm not looking into it too deep, but I just thought it was odd. It is obviously EASIER to make everything at the house, but not that hard to do to make it at her place and bring it or even come early in the morning.

Oh, well. I'll just try to make it as nice a time as possible.

She needs to feel that pain you feel when dropping off and picking up the kids...having to leave them for a few days or feel the kids pain as they leave you. You have been buffering her from most of that for awhile. Also there are memories at the house that she will get to relive as she visits. Each one of these things will make dents in her armor. Will it be enough??? Its all about timing. If her and "Wonderboy" have problems at the right time....then Bam!!! Keep pinging away but avoid the "Friendly Ex Zone"!! Your playing for keeps...The whole package...not just friends and will except nothing less.

YES, YOU ARE.

Stop trying to focus on what SHE may or may not be thinking, and why she may or may not be thinking it, and keep your focus on YOU, and what YOU are doing that's working, and jettison what is NOT working.

That's the DB way. You're still too "rescuing" and still too enmeshed, in my opinion.

Then again, you didn't ASK my opinion, so . . .

Puppy

Of course I am.

Thinking of what she's thinking....

still too "rescuing"....

still too enmeshed....

and still ALWAYS looking for your opinion.

Thanks, dawg.

As we used to say in Minnesota:

"You betcha."

"Used" to say? Pretty sure they still do!

Well, I haven't been there in awhile . . .

Actually, now that I think about it, "you betcha" is more Wisconsin than it is Minnesota. "Oooftah!" is more MN!

Do ya'll have any idea how freakin' hard has been today to not email her? Just to be witty or be a little flirty or ask what she found out about daycare or if she took D7 to daycare or not.

I started to, but erased it.

And I already know that D7 didn't go because I called to check on them earlier.

"Don'tcha know" I thought THAT was Minnesota?

No pain, no gain, H4H.