Hello I, I'm just recently back on the boards. I spent a lot of time here as I was going through the roughest times of my separation/divorce. The advice from others (Snodderly, Shrewl, IMP) were tough to understand, but proved to be so absolutely accurate. As I read Snod's post to you just now, I remembered when it was posted to me at one time. I didn't understand how I could move forward and not worry about him because he was my life and my focus for 20 years. With the strength from these friends and God, I did. It was a choice and there were times I didn't think I could go further, but I just took more steps.
Anyway, as crazy as it feels and hard to imagine, you will be so much better if you do that. Do something for you. Make new traditions...if you've always had a fake Christmas tree...get a real one; if you always go to relatives on Christmas...stay home and have others over. These are just examples of wwhat I did. It helped be grow stronger and realize I can make good decisions on my own. You can too!
Stay strong and never lose hope.
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
