Just spend 4 hours in emergency with my mom. Her surgery became infected. She called me in tears from the rehab place saying the ambulance was on the way. The doc's at the hospital Cleaned up the wound and then prescribed some meds and sent her back to rehab. I think her tears where more from thinking she was not going home Wednesday. I told her we don't know that yet.. We will see..
So I have a question....
Wife is going on and on about how she can not believe our niece (her side). Could do such a think as have an underage party.. (Niece is 40) She keeps on saying 'How can she do such a thing?"
Now in my mind is (yes you know what is coming up) How could SHE do such a thing as have an affair?
Is this how it is going to be forever? I'm I being judgmental?
I know that WDID says that even though she does not act like it...what she did bothers her...I think that If I did something like that I would have no room to talk. I think I have forgiven wife for what she did but still if she was really embarrassed about it... would she be so "judgmental" on niece? Or maybe she is trying to convince herself that ya what she did was wrong but 'Everybody' does something wrong..... But then again is it ME...Am I putting myself up on a pedestal as being the Morally right person....Is the problem that I inside am thinking I am "holier that thou"... Anyway wife made a great dinner tonight and I did let her know. AND I gave her a kiss after dinner... Her lips are sure softer than my or her mom's... Hope... Thanks for the update.. In a way I am sorry for your sitch but in another.. You can move on... Funny how you may be thinking that you were in my shoes and me kind of wishing I were in yours......... Guess the grass in always greener...
So WDID... you said I should give her all of the unconditional love I can this week.. Are you saying I should start the "good night" kisses again? The "boy I am glad to be home from work Kisses again?
I forgot to tell you that W called last night when I was seeing my mom. She told me that she was not going to make dinner and asked if I wanted her to take anything out of the freezer for me to eat. Then today before she went to pick up son from school she told me that she was going to make him some corn dogs and asked if I wanted her to make me one also....... So the "Date" did not push her away. Now I did not "try anything" but still she has not backed off... We are having her family over for thanksgiving dinner.. I can't wait to brag about her and I going to the wineries and how much of a good time I had...Build up how I admire her wine knowledge and how much she has taught me so far....
Ok I'll let ya all get back to your own lives now.. Have a great holiday everyone..
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Looking back, I did the same thing, with judging others still.....wanting to make it all back to normal, talking about others is sometimes nice because you feel better about yourself (not a healthy way to do this). I'm totally different now. I feel no right to judge anyone. I still have my opinions on topics and what I would/would not do, but if someone does something I don't agree with I don't judge them, just disagree with them. Make sense?
What were your 180s again? What did she say was missing in the R?
Kisses? Maybe. ONly you can read her. You'll know after you try the first time.
Glad the weekend went well. My favorite part was her comment that she doesn't like to hear you breathing all night. You know, a thoughtful husband would just stop breathing to please his wife.
