The group tonight was a little emotional mainly because we were talking about how to handle the holidays but also because we had a new guy there who was in tears the entire time. It was a little rough but everyone was so supportive of him. I got congratulations from everyone on the finalization of the D. That seemed odd but not at the same time.
On a fun note, I went to dinner with everyone afterward and when I got the the Waffle House the only place to sit was next to CG. The new guy was sitting across from him and had his little boy with him (he's 4 and has the cutest dimples I've ever seen!). CG wasn't at the group yet when our leader told everyone my D was final so he didn't know. I don't remember how it came up but I mentioned that the D was final and instead of saying congratulations or something like it he asked me how I felt about it. I told him thruthfully that I had a few bad hours on Monday because it was like the final smack of reality and that my head was playing games with me screaming, "FAILURE! FAILURE! FAILURE!" but I was able to talk myself back around that (I didn't metion that I had a LOT of help from my friends here). He was very sweet with me about it and then he and I talked to the new guy about his sitch and tried to help him out as much as we could.
Our waitress brought our bills and CG took them. I asked for mine and he wouldn't hand it over and ended up paying for my dinner. I thanked him and told him that was very sweet of him. His comment was, "Well, you're single now!" Not sure what that meant but it was very sweet of him to do that. I wonder if he was the one that did that last week too. Hmmm.....interesting.
Anyway, I'm going to bed shortly. Hoping for good dreams.
Y'all have a good night now, ya hear?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
BTW Lisa, I had a quiet cup of tea at my office and was thinking of you while I drank it. I'm sure it's not anything like what you usually drink. We Americans are not tea purists like most Brits are. I'm drinking a nice green tea with mandarin orange rinds in it. It's good and cleansing. I have been known to have a nice cup of Earl Grey though.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Working on it Donna.....ha! I'm so totally clueless though it's sad! 19 years with the same man and no real experience prior to that (since I was just a baby!) really makes the senses a little dull.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
CG fancies you! I can tell! No man buys dinner for a girl and says "ah well your single now" without it MEANING something? C'mon, admit it, are you sensing a vibe off of him? Hey, I know the ink is not yet dry on your D, so I dont want to encourage you here, but I thikn you should own it, you ARE attractive to other men! Good for you. He sounds like a lovely guy, he didnt just give you a round of applause like you are a performing seal (sorry! I am sure they are lovely people and meant well) but he took the trouble to ask you how you FEEL about it. Thats lovely.
You said... "I did ask him a few months ago. He couldn't give me any kind of an answer. I decided that it was pointless to ask again."
...hmm, well its a moving target though isnt it? The convo I had with my ex this week could no way have happened a few months ago, he wasnt ready, I wasnt able and it wasnt 'time'. Things change, people change (not always with help, whoever said that, I changed totally.. just from the shock of him leaving me)..
Also, I wanted to say, watch the self-defeating stuff/closing yourself off? Saying "I decided it was pointless... " is kind of setting yourself up for failure? Its fair enough though if you really arent interested in talking to him, that different. Besides CG sounds like a more interesting person to talk to !
I think you are right that Gabe will tire of her soon. She sounds awful!!
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
