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Thanks for the reminder, I needed that.... \:\)


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Originally Posted By: BobbiJo
1)He has worked so hard his 'whole life' and if things go this way he will be giving up half of what he worked for

It could be that the main reason he does not file is his knowing he is going to lose a lot in the divorce.

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I cannot decide which is worse, for those whose spouses just walk away and never look back, or for those where they yo-yo all over the place. I can't imagine H just cutting himself off from me, but at the same time, maybe I wouldn't have been hanging on to hope for so long..............


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Quote:
SAGITTARIUS
November 22-December 21

Don't let your loved one's oddball habits get you down. Everyone has their own quirks, including you. Learning to love the whole person is part of a strong relationship.


I can easily apply this to me in my sitch.

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Yeah, I think it is so natural to realize that your spouse will have annoying habits, and you will annoy them. But who says that has to be a deal-breaker? Mature people should/could look beyond little annoyances if the love is there....

Was going to take a personal day tomorrow, but I didn't ask and now the principal is gone...


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Actually when you really love somebody "little" annoyances dont seem so annoying anymore...


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That's what I think. I could rattle off several things H does that are 'annoying' on some level, but I would never leave him/cheat on him b/c of some little annoying habits.....that is part of love, accepting someone. That little red flag flew up at Retrouvaille when we journaled on accepting each other, I said I could/did accept H as he was and he said he WANTED to accept me flaws and all but there were parts of me he DIDN'T accept.........


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(((((BobbiJo)))))

Sorry about the principal vanishing! Don't try too hard to figure him out right now. I think it might be a moving target. The main point, which you have already figured out, is that you can't "fix" him. So take good care of YOU!

Thanks for visiting my thread, and for all of your support. It's not like you don't have enough on your plate!

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Originally Posted By: KerryK
Originally Posted By: BobbiJo
1)He has worked so hard his 'whole life' and if things go this way he will be giving up half of what he worked for

It could be that the main reason he does not file is his knowing he is going to lose a lot in the divorce.


good call Kerry..good call...and spot on..

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Originally Posted By: M from Tennessee
Originally Posted By: KerryK
Originally Posted By: BobbiJo
1)He has worked so hard his 'whole life' and if things go this way he will be giving up half of what he worked for

It could be that the main reason he does not file is his knowing he is going to lose a lot in the divorce.


good call Kerry..good call...and spot on..

I agree with this, as well. He does have a practical side.

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