I am so sorry you are having to go through this pain all over again.
My W told me, when she was thinking of coming back, that she could not guarantee she would not hurt me again. Now after hearing your situation, I am glad she did not as she is weak just as Dan is.
It might be worth finding out if OW is still around. I would imagine that would be the stick that breaks the camels back.
I wanted to get away too. Last year I took the kids during Thanksgiving on a train trip to Seattle. Then a trip with the kids to Mexico during Christmas. Have you thought about a trip to Chicago or St Louis? Maybe even better - Sandpoint, Idaho is starting to get snow in the mountains this time of year and someone there is having trouble too.
I dont know why S.Y.D. gets censored - there was [censored] Barret who was a founding member of Pink Floyd. They booted him because of his heavy use of LSD.
And Sid Vicious from the Sex Pistols... Funny thing, I listen to both bands.
BBJ, he doesn't know what he wants. My guess is he will meander around a while and try to figure out what he wants but will have no clue.
Just so you know my reason for not telling the kids yet... When I was 8 my parents took me to a park in August. I remember the park, the day and even what I was wearing. They told me that they were getting a divorce. 32 years later I still remember that day clearly. I'm glad it wasn't around the holidays. Just my two cents (worth one now due to market declines).
Thanks Woog, you are right the market sucks these days...
I am just a little shell shocked today. I shouldn't be, I knew down inside that this was coming, I haven't been seeing glimpses of the man who wants his wife for quite a while...
I thought at some point he would realize that I AM what he has always wanted, he was just looking in all the wrong places. One of the husbands at Retro made a comment "it's like this veil has been lifted and now I see my wife for the amazing person she has been all along"....guess I wanted H to have a moment like that.
He is lost and drifting, hasn't made any plans to move on, but doesn't want to stay either.........very sad. I hope for his sake he can find a way to get himself together so he can enjoy his life and his kids.
I am not a big horoscope person but Kalni said Ali mentioned it was a big week, so I looke up mine and Dan's for today.
Mine:
VIRGO August 23-September 22
When one door closes, another one always opens. You may be leaving behind something that you enjoyed, but right now the outlook for you and your loved one has never been better.
His:
SAGITTARIUS November 22-December 21
Don't let your loved one's oddball habits get you down. Everyone has their own quirks, including you. Learning to love the whole person is part of a strong relationship.
Oh well, and Jeff, I saw glimpses he loves me, too. I am just glass half empty today. He has told me many times that he loves me and he will always love me. But he is not allowing himself to see a future with me. All he sees when he looks at me is pain, anger, resentment, frustration, annoyance a lot of the time. When he sees the good stuff he writes it off as a fluke, or the past, or whatever.
I gotta learn to let go......the trouble is I confuse letting go with pushing him the hell out the door. When I react in anger it just makes the situation worse......
Drift... Sid Barrett of Pink Floyd didn't really get booted out for using LSD. They don't really know what happened to him - he was on a heavy binge one weekend and fried his brain. They don't know what it is he actually took or made. He was really smart science wise and made drugs himself. They think he made and took something and whatever it was cooked his brain and he never recovered. He was in the band for a while longer but couldn't contribute and they moved on without him. He hung around though and my understanding was he had no idea what was going on. Don't think he ever knew he "left" the band. He was really *really* out there....
On this thread my opinion is tell him to man up and sh** or get off the pot and make a plan now. Timing IMO won't be a real big deal for the kids because of their age. IMO the sooner the enviornmemt changes stress wise the better.
Guys, Bbj, excuse me for what I will say but I think the S.Y.D. is censored because it could mean "suck your...snake"? ROFLMAO!! (did I get it right?) (I hope you smiled...)
I wish I could get all this stupid pain away from all of my friends and loved ones here... fb2 said it once on my thread and I will never forget that..., I have it in my head translated in Greek in English it was something like "throw is away like a paper in a waste basket..." K
Yes K I suppose it could stand for that.... See I even smiled..
H texted me an hour ago "You do have all your snow globes found correct. It is going to be 12 degrees tonight."
WTF
First of all, they are OUR snowglobes, specifically HIS b/c MIL gave them to us for Christmas over the years. He is referring to a couple of Nativity scene large snow globes his mom gave us.
Plus, he already knows I got them out of storage 2 weeks ago, b/c two weeks ago he was on a trip out of town and called to tell me it was going to freeze overnight and I needed to go get the globes and bring them inside so they didn't freeze...
Finally in the scheme of our lives TODAY are snow globes really all that important? Major DAM...grrr
And I don't think I mentioned this yet but during his rant/spew last night, he said he was extremely angry that
1)He has worked so hard his 'whole life' and if things go this way he will be giving up half of what he worked for
2)If things go this way (he kept saying IF, where is the IF???), I will get to see the kids more b/c I have such a great work schedule as a teacher.....
umm..........if he wants the big bucks he talks about in #1 he can't have the job he talks about in #2 (duh)
I bristled at that and he clarified, "I am not mad at YOU BBJ, it isn't about YOU I am mad at the situation"
See I even smiled..