I think it's the old guilt thing, she is trying to confirm in her head that she is leaving behind a "no good worthless POS" which obviously you are not, so it must be getting to her that you are outwardly getting on with your life without her. Any bad reaction from you gives her the chance to say that's why I'm leaving him. Arthur, even with all the things you stated she has going for her, she is not happy, why else would she pick on you and keep you as the focus in her life. Stick to your guns mate, cos I don't see her letting up on you until you snap, (which you won't). Keep the PMA going, keep your time with the boys fun, keep moving forward in the direction you are going. You may not see it but she is not happy, not happy, because you are happy (or appearing to be happy).
Cheers Lan, that is how I read it to be fair, just wanted outside looking in opinions.
I did snap, but that was as she was trying to rearrange my plans with my boys at 12 hours notice, which is not on and also she has twice this week brought S6 into things, which is even worse. I do not usually snap and was surprised that after I hung up when she rang a bit later, there was no repeat calls or a text.
S2 is asleep, so me and S6 just chilling in front of TV and have made a fire. He has a fire thing !!! lol
do not play into any drama she throws your way..no matter what..she will attempt to throw you off..maker you get mad..ignore her, just say no to what you don't agree with
Someone tell me, why is she getting worse ? I don't get it, she has rid of me as she wanted, as far as she understands and her solicitor says, she is going to get everything she wants and she has a new BF. Why not just leave me be to be a dad and sort the rest out through solicitors.
Your wondering why she is getting worse, your kidding me right.
She is getting worse because she is getting everything she wanted and its not making her happy. She is getting everything she wanted and you are happier. She is getting everything she wanted and its not your fault anymore that she is unhappy so who's fault is it? So in reality she is getting everything she wanted but its not all that it is cracked up to be and she is unhappy and needs to take it out on someone.
She is trying to take it out on you but you don't bit anymore and that pisses her off. She has lost control of everything she though she was in control of. Her life is heading down while you are pulling yourself up. Keep up the good work A, your doing great.
I have no idea how you and Mike and the other people on this board put up with such batchitt crazy exes.
I second Lanzo, Tim and Mike, your W has no one to blame but herself, she can't handle it, so she attempts to throw blame onto you to make herself feel empowered or the victim, whatever. You didn't bite the bait, and won't. When you have firm plans with the boys, you can calmly explain that to her. Tell her you understand that there will be times that plans will have to change, and you are willing to be flexible because you know that she will have things that she wants to share with the boys and it might be during your scheduled times. It shows you accept the situation she has put you in and you are willing to live within the terms she requested. It also establishes a boundary that says short-term changes to benefit her emotions are not acceptible. That she wants you to contribute towards taxes and treads I think is petty.
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LE - Ermmmm, I did actually bite on this occasion but I will be flexible with times for having the boys etc, that was in fact my suggestion at Mediation and STBX wanted a rigid routine. However, there needs to be some notice and not 12 hours before just cause she has realised she would be hungover on Sunday.
Not slept well last night, couldn't get off and feeling a bit ratty today. Got solicitors (new one) in 4 hours so hoping for some good or at least better news than my current solicitor is suggesting.
Boys from 4pm, so nice to have that to look forward too
