Another grueling appt. with my L. 2 hours long. The good news is that I don't have to go to H's depo on Friday. Really don't want to hear about his trips with OW or how horrible he thinks I am.
The L is so rude. For example, she asks me to bring in a few things every week like info or summaries or look over legal documents of H's and write up notes or whatever which she either wants at the next appt. or dropped off at her office asap.And I have always done so. We're talking probably dozens of crap, bank statements, credit card statements which I have always done so asap. She asked me to do a monthly budget of how much the kids and I need, which I did, but didn't turn it in to her b/c it's $45,000 or something I believe which is probably too much. I'm going to trim it down today a bit and give it to her.
I had told her the long history of my kids' evaluations and stuff and one of the things I told her was S15 has short-term memory issues. So she asks me do you have short-term memory issues? I mean if I did would I have brought in the other 3 dozen pieces of crap she told me to? Grrr.
She asks me questions and when I answer she reprimands me for interrupting her. I've started saying you asked me a question and I am answering, and she'll say I was just talking to myself out loud??? I hate this L!!! Is this an L thing or something, b/c the Ls I know currently are such azzes!!!!
She was also suggesting that the public school system here in FL might be better for them (they have no special ed though and 30 kids in a class) might be better for them b/c I don't standardized test the kids. I was trying to explain when you homeschool you already know what level the kids are doing reading,writing, and math, and you don't have to test when you are working with the kids one-on-one most of the day. She seemed to think it was criminal--how can you not compare your children to other children in public school she wants to know. Geez, their autistic and dyslexic, why would I want to find out how many grade levels they are behind at a certain year; it doesn't change your daily work and working at their level. My ds now is reading adult level books, but was a couple years behind early on. What does it matter that he took extra time to learn to read? Karen
I am sorry if she is such a witch. I think they have to have this hard, non-caring attitude or they couldn't do what they have to. I mean really would you be able to live with yourself everyday knowing that most of these situations could be saved but you are hired to do it and be a prick in the process?
No thanks not for me. The B L that I talked to is so different. I think because even though he has to be very matter of fact in court, he can see that he is doing some good. He is helping people out of terrible situations.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
She was also suggesting that the public school system here in FL might be better for them (they have no special ed though and 30 kids in a class) might be better for them b/c I don't standardized test the kids. I was trying to explain when you homeschool you already know what level the kids are doing reading,writing, and math, and you don't have to test when you are working with the kids one-on-one most of the day. She seemed to think it was criminal--how can you not compare your children to other children in public school she wants to know. Geez, their autistic and dyslexic, why would I want to find out how many grade levels they are behind at a certain year; it doesn't change your daily work and working at their level. My ds now is reading adult level books, but was a couple years behind early on. What does it matter that he took extra time to learn to read? Karen
Karen she studied Law, not education. Just because she has a degree doesn't make her smart. YOU know what is best for your kids and I think that in this case opinions are like A-holes...everybody has one. Don't let her try and push you on what SHE thinks is right for your kids. If they were mainstreamed it would be detrimental to their progress right? Well then do what is best for them. Period. Sorry, this really pissed me off.
I also think that maybe her attitude is a reflection of who she is and what she does for a living. Don't take it personally, but don't put up with her BS either. You are paying HER, so she needs to treat you with respect. Bottom line. Take care of yourself. (((Hugs)))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I need to check up on everybody's thread today. H just picked up the kids to take them out to celebrate D8's birthday which is tomorrow. I avoided H when he came over, I've got a cold and didn't feel like being friendly or seeing him or anything like that.
I just realized OW is probably going to enjoy giving D8 a birthday present. What is the protocol on that since H and I are still married. Do I actually have to keep that in my house if they are tacky enough to do that???? So glad I have such a trashy H I have to actually worry about crap like that!!!
I actually had fun today--terrific Tuesday and we got all the stuff for D8 and I to make her cake tomorrow and all kinds of icing and frosting to decorate it with. Should be very colorful at least!!! Karen
As predicted, OW gave D8 a necklace/whistle for her birthday. She came home wearing it around her neck. I asked D8 not to wear it in my house while I'm still married to her dad. I suggested she bring it to her dad's house and she could wear it there whenever she wanted and blow the whistle a lot too for Daddy and OW. I think the OW is so fricking nasty. I'm sure she realized that would be horrible for me to look at, so I have to think she was purposely setting up to use my daughter to hurt me. You'd think she would feel she had already done enough. Do you think I should have D8 take it to her dad's or just let her have it here and have it go missing in the near future??? Karen
I thought it was H4H's turn though? I kind of want to see either Hellboy 2, Sex and the City (but I think I may be the only one that hasn't seen that yet!), or Hancock (but that's not out for a couple days I think)? What do you think of this? Btw, don't you think the OW did that on purpose with the necklace/flute??? Or do you think I'm just paranoid? Karen
He hasn't answered. I just want/ need to do something. I am going to see Twilight with some friends on Friday. then thank goodness my boss thought of this but I will get 9 days off while only using 3 vacation days!! Yeah.
Ex just brought the kids home and is complaining about school assignments missing. He drives me nuts!!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Karen