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((((((Mishka)))))))

I finally get time to drop in and say hi to you.

Sorry you are feeling the loss.

But I will join those sending congratulations.

You are not saddled with him or his problems, and you have CS in writing!!!!!!

I'm sure there is a virtual party going on, hope you got some good laughs out of it.

Sleep well hon.

Hey Mish..I just wanted you to know that I saw how you went out of your way yesterday to post to people here to help them..I know your day wasn't very good..but i thought it spoke volumes about you and your state of mind...

you're gonna be OK..keep moving forward..

Hey Mishka

I just wanted to see how you are doing today... although that is probably a silly question.

(((Mishka)))

(((mishka)))

Just stopping in to say Hi and see how you're doing.

I think we can work on the flirting. The trick is to start doing it with people you're not interested in at all- builds confidence for the important CG types

L. xx

PS. Sunshine and naej- it's NEVER too cold to go commando!

((((((Mishka))))))))

Hope today goes swell!

I want to post back to all of you but I have to run right now. I do have a question though I'm hoping you will have an opinion on (like anyone here is ever lacking opinions! )

Should I let Gabe know that the D is final or just let him get the papers in the mail?

Let him get the papers in the mail...
Too soon to get into such a discussion with him now. You are still too vulnerable...
K

Why would you tell him?

-- perhaps hoping to hear some regret or pain in his voice? Don't bother.

-- perhaps to take care of him and comfort him? Not your job, he does not want that kind of R with you.

-- perhaps to punish him? Not productive, not good for you or the kids

There isn't an R between you and X to manage right now. He wanted a D. He wanted you out of his personal life. Respect his wishes. Leave him alone.

Yup, you're both right! Thank you! I hear ya loud and clear!

My ridiculous nature to "take care" of everyone regardless of how bad they have hurt me. I guess my instinct to make sure he wasn't blindsided by the mail took over. Let him be blindsided! I sure was!

I picked up the final decree from my L on my way to pick up my mom from dialysis. I immediately pulled it out of the envelope and it kicked me in the stomach to see the judges signature on it and the court clerk's official stamps on it. Very icky stuff! I wouldn't ever wish this on my worst enemy, let alone any of my friends here. Fight with all you have, but when you run out of strength, try to find ways to soften the blows for yourselves. They all feel like they come from prize fighters.

You are soooo right about this... You know what? You sound so much wiser
xxx
K