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You better take a picture if you do make it like that! lol

kat

Naturally

Yummmmmmmmmmmmmmyyyyyyyyyyy!

I spoke with b L's office yesterday and it turns out that they won't come scope out my stuff at my house. I will need to mention that I am storing it for the time being. This stress is awful, not sure if I can hold out until I get my taxes done but he says that will save me money so I am trying.

I really hope none of you have to go through this additional mess. I just want him to not be able to do anything like this to me again.

kat

I'm glad they aren't coming to your house. I can't imagine that scene. I'm so sorry you have this stress right now on top of everything else. You are the last person in the world that deserves any of this.

Focus on what you can control and what gives you joy. What special things are you planning for the holidays with your kids? Think of some of the special traditions that you can still continue that will bring warmth to your heart and theirs. Maybe you can think of some new things, too. Are there things you always wanted to do, but knew your H never would have "gone for it"? Do those things.

kat,

It was hard for me to let go of bills when I put the W in rehab; I felt like a total deadbeat. But I had to focus on what was more important; paying the W's bills or keeping my kids fed, clothed, and sheltered.

It gets easier. Kinda like DB'ing the creditors; keep yourself focused on yourself and the kids.

I am trying to get away from the commercialism of Christmas. I am going to try to work on making more things and baking. Takes more time but that is part of the joy. I have also thought of maybe donating livestock with the heifer organization out of Arkansas. Just maybe showing the kids that it isn't about accumulating more stuff but giving and helping others. Oh and also no Christmas stuff before Thanksgiving is past. Let's enjoy one holiday at a time!

kat

(((Kat))) I'm so sorry for all the stress. You just have to keep focusing on the most important thing and thats getting you and the kids to a better place. I like your idea about Christmas, I'm going to be doing a lot of that myself. My kids need to realize how fortunate they are and "stuff" is just stuff.

I also like the idea of creating your own "new" traditions too. This is your opportunity to do it your way and how you have always wanted it. Not much of a consolation, but its kind of neat, too.

Thanks guys. I have tried really hard to stay focused on what is important, my family. Ex isn't part of that anymore and I am going to find away for him to not create anymore havoc in our lives.

I know he hates when I throw myself in with the kids but it really is about us now. The only thing left for him to do to hurt me is marry the skank. I can't control that but I can wipe out memories of him in the house by making changes. That is my game plan.

kat

Good to have a game plan. I liked your holiday ideas.....I love baking and homeade things, too. Was actually thinking of trying the whole stringing of the popcorn and cranberry thing. You ever try that?