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Yay Sep!

You are doing so well and are really making a lot of progress. As we were saying over in ITH's thread stage 1 takes the longest to get out of. I think that was true for my sitch too. So even though it is taking awhile I think that says a lot about the chances of your sitch lasting once you get to stages 2-4 because you are not rushing or forcing the first stage.

Good job and congrats!

Hi Sep,

This is really nice. In fact it seems that I am seeing more and more posts from you where H comes by and you ML. I agree with Daisy that stage 1 takes the longest to get out of, especially if you aren't seeing each other on a regular basis. Seems though like your slow and steady approach is really paying off.

Well done!

ITH

Yes I feel like we are inching our way back to each other right now. I was very tempted to in a joking manner tell him that he should take me to the Intrepid Museum since it re-opened (this was something we plannned in the past before they closed it) but I chickened out at the last minute

I went to one of the interviews this morning and it went well. I feel really good about this place but I still have one other interview on Saturday before I make any decisions.

Hi Sep,

Fingers crossed for the interview.

Maybe you can ask your H to the museum soon? Perhaps you'll want to share some good news about whatever new job you take with him, and need to celebrate :).

ITH

Thank you!!

I already got a call back from the interview I had this morning!!! I asked for a sign to figure out what direction to take and so far I have had some signs that indicate that I should take the job that I went to the interview for this morning.

I feel so weird like there is going to be such a big change coming. I hope it is all for the best!!

That's amazing Sep! I can't believe you heard back so fast. That is a great sign! Did you take the job or did you ask for a day or two to think?

I also like ITH's idea of inviting H to the museum to celebrate your new job (whichever one you take)

Thank you Daisy!!!

I have to go in tomorrow for another meeting. They said that they wanted to pick someone before the end of the week. I told them in the initial interview what my salary requirements would be so I think that will be met then I also told them there were certain classes that I wanted to take and hopefully they will be included in package.

I think I will do that, I will wait until I hear the final word then I will tell him which place I am going to work and that he should take me to the Intrepid. LoL.

Hey Sep,

Just following along here. I'm thrilled that things are going so well on the job front!!!

ITH

Thank you!!! All the positive vibes are REALLY helping!!

Have interview #2 today in the afternoon and if all goes well I will accept this offer so I can start on Dec. 1st. Give this place the 2 week notice on Monday.

On the H front, we were texting back and forth last night again nothing serious but it feels good that the communication is more and more frequent.

Hey Sep,

Best of luck with your job interview today! The way things are going for you, I'm sure that you will get a favorable outcome.

I also like the fact that you and your H are communicating more frequently. I think at the beginning like this, it's best if the conversations are nothing serious. That's what I've been dealing with too, and it feels weird in one way, but I think you need to build the comfort and trust with the small things first. Perhaps you can work your way up to talking about your work after you accept a new job. I know Pisces had mentioned in her own sitch that this was a good way to get her H to open up (talking about his work though). It's personal enough that it seems more intimate, yet not R based in any way, so no real pressure around the topic.

Anyway fingers crossed for you!

ITH