So the mystery is solved why H sent those kind of cranky/rude emails yesterday after being perfectly nice to me the day before. My L's office called today and she and H's L yesterday set up a depo of H next Friday and I meet with her Monday. H's L always sends him the emails right away and my L calls a day or 2 later so he always finds stuff out before me. I'm dreading that I might have to go to the depo. I'd rather not hear all the crap he will probably say about how horrible I am, how he's just a poor victim, etc. Yuk! H will have his wonderful guy persona I'm sure. Karen
I guess in preparation for upcoming hearing and trial? I'll find out more Monday I guess (hope). H wants full custody, no alimony (I've been a sahm for the past 9 years), me paying H child support, basically changing everything we've been doing with the children for the past 15 years. It's not gonna be pretty. I'd rather not attend any of it, but will for the kids. I just focus on the kids, the kids.... Karen
You GOT to be kidding me????!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He's crazy! He is honestly trying for full custody while you have been the SAHM mom who has been home schooling them??? That's just nuts. Married 18 years, with you at home, and he thinks he won't be paying you alimony? Wow. Does your lawyer just laugh? If not, you need another lawyer
Married 18 years, with you at home, and he thinks he won't be paying you alimony? Wow. Does your lawyer just laugh? If not, you need another lawyer
She thought H didn't tell him all the facts or she said something like that? B/c for example the L didn't put in the paperwork that they're autistic, and in their latest paperwork are denying it and we have to prove it. We have diagnosis from the U of Washington Autism Center and you can tell within 5 seconds of meeting ds and 5 minutes of meeting dd. I think he either is crazy or has a crappy L, maybe both? B/c that means H will have to pay for evaluations (over $1000 for both) and it will still come out the same.
My guess is that H is saying I'm crazy (he had told me he was going to tell the courts that although he didn't actually believe it), and that I'm trying to shelter them or something by homeschooling them, like a wacko or something, not that we tried a small (10 kids or less in class) private school and ds couldn't do it--I wound up hsing him full-time by the end so we didn't feel like we had a choice. But now H thinks they'll be fine in public school, with him having custody although he's always had a 70 to 80 week schedule of work and working out and friends. Basically I think he's in denial about their autism b/c it is SO apparent it's crazy. And I think he wants to be able to public school and have custody b/c he will have more money, but doesn't really think what will happen if he gets that. My C says he probably wouldn't be able to do the full custody thing (he's never even tried in the past 15 years). He hasn't ever appreciated what I do for/with the kids, and thinks it'll be a piece of cake. There's a piece of me that would laugh if he actually would get full custody (which I don't think they will), it would be cool for H to realize what I've been doing the past 15 years, but don't want to hurt the kids of course. Karen
Even if they weren't autistic, you've been home with them, homeschooling.....SAHM.....married 18 years....there's NO WAY you wouldn't get alimony. And , how in the world does he think he'd get full custody? He'd have to prove you unfit. Is that what he is going to try to do?
Karen