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Thanks BW, I'm sure you haven't read all my threads and I take no joy in saying this, but my W's OM was/is a player. He's had at least 4 affairs that his W knows about and if there's that many she knows about, how many are there she doesn't know about. And my W was warned by one of the guys she works the first week after we relocated to be careful with OM because he's always fishing and she fell for it anyway. OM told her he was going to divorce his W so they could be together when he already had ANOTHER GF in the location he'd moved to. So in addition to my W, he had a new GF and was cheating on his W with both.

That has to be a tough thing to deal with. Being ready to throw out a marriage of 23 years for your "soulmate" who is really just using you and telling you everything you want to hear with no intentions of anything permanent.

Thanks for posting.

Kat, Thanks again for your support. I sure hope you're right. And you just might be. Tonight we were talking about a peer friend of mine from work who's wife left him and as best he can tell is now hookin for money. And she wants way more than half of his retirement and 401k plan. My W was just shaking her head about it all and making comments like she finally gets it.

So we'll see...

I love stupid OM story time!!

OMs GF told me when she hooked up with him....he was cheating on his GF at that time!!

My W has told me numerous people have told her OM was a loser/playa! (playa is hip speak).

But alas.....she loves him so....LOL!

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Uhhh, sex.

Uhhh, sex.

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LOL Kat. uhhhh....I'm hoping with micro brew and OSU stomping Mich that the sex will be a given, but who knows?

Last night was just all around good. W made homemade chicken noodle soup. It took a while and I spent most of the time in the kitchen with her, just talking, laughing, etc.

We finally ate around 9:00, which was too late to eat, but I wasn't going to NOT eat after all the effort she made. When I went to bed I gave her a kiss goodnight and she didn't object one bit, and it wasn't just a kiss you get from grandma.....

I might have made a mistake this morning. W was in the shower. She is going to a training class today in a bigger city north of us. I told her to be careful, meaning driving in rush hour in a big city can get hairy and she was kind of put off by it, so I said "driving in that traffic just makes me nervous". She didn't say anything. I have a pretty good idea she was thinking "I'm a big girl, I'll be just fine" because she HATES it when someone thinks she can't do something on her own so it may have been a mistake, but WTH? I'm concerned and I wanted to show it.

We'll see how she is tonight.......

I wouldn't worry about it. Remember how she was in the Disney dueling pianos bar? She ACTED like she hated that you came to her rescue, but then she really LIKED it.

Women. Go figure.

Puppy

Might be right Pup. She IM'd me right before leaving her office for the training class. Told me she was leaving and she'd see me tonight.

Now what woman sends that if they DON'T want a person to know what's going on?

Gotta run. Talk to ya in a bit.

I think it's important to remember that we all feel things in a flash of irritation...but realize the other person meant well later. So she probably was like, Good God, I can drive in traffic, H!!! And then before she left thought, well he just said that because he cares.

My H reacts to um...everything...poorly...but his "second" thoughts are usually better.

Thanks Break. I also need to remind myself constantly that W is NOT a morning person at all. I've know this forever. Anything she says before 8 am you might as well just ignore, because she HATES mornings. It's just now with the situation everything is magnified.

And this morning is right in line. She is ticked, but after she gets to work and has time to think about it she sends me an IM and tells me she's leaving.

Your H and my W sound a lot alike. She'll react to stuff and when I (or S16) call her on it, she immediately realizes what she's done/said. But she NEVER apologizes. I guess she is missing the gene that allows her to say "I'm sorry"

Man, it's a beautiful day here and I just don't feel like working......

It's a rainy day here and I don't feel like working...LOL

Actually I'm not a morning person either...and H is..so he bombards me with questions and ideas then and all I can hear is blah blah blah blah blah...then in the evening I'm all on fire with my questions and ideas and he is like...Oh God, shut up. LOL. Afternoon is good I guess.

Thanks Break. My W is definitely a night person. And I'm a morning person. She will stay up late even though we get up for work at 5 am. And I'm beginning to wonder if that might be part of her weekend/weekday jeckyll/hyde routine. On the weekends she sleeps until 9 or 10 and she's great. Weekdays she doesn't go to bed (couch) until 11 or after and gets up at 5. Maybe lack of sleep causes her mood swings during the week?

She hates it on vacation that I get up early. That's why we usually try to get a bigger room so I can go somewhere and not disturb her sleep. I just love getting up before the sun comes up and sit there with a cup of coffee and watch the day come ALIVE.