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Karen,
My two cents on the Excel thing. I agree with everyone that you need to upgrade your computer skills. The higher your skill level, the more marketable and higher paid you will be! Around here if you sign up with a temp agency, they will typically have free computer training to make you more marketable for them. Have you ever tried an agency?

What a goober. Even if your D didn't show it, his selfishness hurt her. That makes me mad!

Interesting. So H showed up before church today and told D8 that he was going to be sitting in the back and see her sing and she did the handbells (with the other older girls). I think he might have left after she sang, b/c we were one of the first out of the church and H was home in jeans already. Don't know if H changed his mind or thought it was good for legal reasons or what, but I'm so glad he did. She was so happy she said to have "both parents" there. A year ago, that would have been no big deal to her!

I asked to talk to him about S14's birthday gift for tomorrow. We've had him just pick out his own gift since he was a teen, and asked him if he was going to do that with H today (b/c he's not going to see him tomorrow). S14 wants a Wii game of course! He acted kind of like why do you want to talk to me? Don't know why he has to be like that--believe me I talk to him as little as possible!!! He said he wanted to take S14 out to dinner tomorrow for his birthday and kind of like he was expecting a fight from me and saying you'll have him all day like justifying that, and I was just fine about that of course. I like him to spend time with the kids since they love him so much!

He looked like crap again today, grayish and balding. I think his exterior is now kind of closer to matching his interior (I used to think him very good-looking). I think some of it is reality, but I think I've taken the rose-colored glasses off too.

I just realized, I wonder if H was there for the sermon? It was a patriotic sermon and the Pastor started it out kind of oddly talking about how easy it is for people to take others for granted and families to be disposable. Then the rest was patriotic about Veteran's day. The pastor has met H so wonder if that was aimed at H or just coincidence???? Weird.

H just called to tell me he's going to take them to dinner and lunch today, so won't take him out tomorrow. Said fine with me. Don't know why that needed a call. But then WAS make no sense I think most of the time!!!

It's a gorgeous sunny day today in the 70's here. Loving it! Have the afternoon free now, but 4 hours of Bible study and Bible class tonight at 6. Hope everyone is having a good day today! Karen

Had a great PMA going today. Had fun at the Bible study and learned a bit. My first Bible study since I was a kid!

Really nice people there. Everyone asked about my job sitch, and they were very understanding and supportive. Someone told me there is a local community college branch in our town which has computer classes and they may be free so I'll look into that tomorrow.

Came home and worked out. D8 came in and told me about her fun day. I know H said he was taking S14 out to dinner for his b-day. And I guess OW went with. D8 told me she beat Dad at her Sorry game and OW too. I felt sick at the mention of her name for about 30 or 45 seconds, but I think progress b/c in the past I think I would have felt that way for a day or 2. Just almost right away thought how the 2 are perfect for each other: lying, untrustworthy, messed-up, etc. So that made me feel better. Karen

And really when you think about it, it is a relationship built on lies and deceit, so it doesn't have much of a chance anyway. Right now you are probably the bond that keeps them together but will happen when you are out of their picture... I wouldn't want to get a look at their fans!!

kat

Funny about the fans! Why do you think I am the bond that keeps them together though??? Karen

They have you to be against...you are the dreaded, awful wife.

kat

Oh,yeah, I forgot, I'm delaying their perfect happiness, getting in their way with the divorce, etc. If it were only for me they would be 100% happy! Bleck!

Karen,

Other then jealous of the weather, give him a good roundhouse kick. Ow could probably use one also. To bad you stand in the way of all the happiness they deserve.

Here is some craziness from work. Spent yesterday watching a woman take the most worthless crap off of some property for about 4 hours. Was there today for about 3 hours watching her dig up plants and take them. Funny thing she lives in an apartment. Thankfully her shovel broke or it would have been longer. Thought about shooting her, but just did not seem like the thing to do. So I sat in the car and enjoyed the radio and a book.

Hope you can get the computer training you need. I am somewhat ignorant of computer op systems. Ironic since at the guards most of my job in avionics have to do with the op systems of planes.

Take care of yourself and the K's. Hope your S has a good birthday. I am sure D8 was really cute singing and doing the handbells.

I've noticed the same things about my H. He has gained a ton of weight and just doesn't look good. All that lying must take its toll in some way. About you being the glue, I totally agree. As soon as you aren't there to "keep them apart" then they will get what they truly deserve. I live by the motto: Don't ask for something you really don't want or you just might get it. They both will in this case....DAFT's.

I'm so glad for your DD though. I'm glad he showed up, for whatever reason, and made her happy. I know that these things have become important to mine too. I'm also glad she beat them at Sorry, too. Its a small victory, but a victory none the less.

Just wanted to come by and give you a hug. ((((hug))))