I jsut couldnt do it , keep his name. I figured that was my married name, not married anymore why keep it. I'm starting a new life w/out him and it just felt like thsi was all a part of me being ME again.
Can you beleive that when judge asked X if it was OK? /w him for me to change my name, X sat there for a while thinking about it?
I couldnt believe it either. I sat in awe... What if he disapproved? Heck this affair was all his doing and then yr gonna make me keep his name at that?
I know he could read my eyes as I was staring him down when judge asked him...as I was saying to myself...dont you even dare to disapprove mister!
What state are you in? Why would your X have any right to dictate what name you can go by? He lost all his rights the second he went out and had an A IMO. Good grief!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
lwb...you are amazing! I completely agree with the people that said the way you have handled things with your X shows your character and maturity. Putting the kids first is the number one thing in all of this and that's what you're doing. Absolutely amazing! I give you many kudos!!! And seriously chicki! The judge asked your X if he was ok with you changing your name back!? Really?! Wow! I grew up in FL! Panhandle. I'm in MI now, it's also a no fault state. But fault comes into play in custody and property issues. Luckily, I'm not the one who has to deal with that...and currently, he's not at all concerned with it either. Yet... :-D
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
The judge asked xH if it was ok if I *kept* his name. Funny, I don't think its the judge's business either way!!!
And thanks livin4me, I appreciate those kind words. Its not easy to bite my tongue when it comes to xH, but I do it. I just focus on the kids and anything after that is NONE of my business anymore. xH never asks me about *anything* personal. He has followed my lead in the house as well. For example, months ago, I stopped undressing in front of him. He now does the same, and also respects when I am in the shower (he has come a LONG way with that. lol).
A year ago, I would walk out the door to go to work and I would say goodbye to him and he would ignore me. It hurt so much. Now, he actually says goodbye, have a great night, we'll call you later. Amazing how much we BOTH have 'come around', huh?
