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T2L, I am praising God for your weekend, and I understand your sadness the next day. The night before was good, normal, like your marriage should be. So, it's natural to feel a loss when he leaves after something so good. I know that you are going to continue to create those moments for him, and you will become closer. You have worked so hard and been so faithful, I am really proud of you.

Marisol, I think your H's call was a good sign! And, you handled it well. He was curious about you and that party. That's always a good thing. If he didn't care he wouldn't have called.

And, Dash, your statement, "it's always darkest before dawn", really inspired me today. Thanks for stopping by and offering your opinion. Please come back! I will visit your newcomers thread today.

Hope, I hate having to be the "bigger person" in all of this, too. But, I really think H's are in their own private h##l b/c they wonder what is wrong with me. They can see how we've changed, the confidence, how happy, how great we look. Then they look at themselves: lost, gaining weight, unhappy, feeling sick. They know their lives are turned upside down. That's why they'll say over and over what we did wrong and why they have left, so they don't have to face themselves. And, because they are still too proud to say they were wrong.

I'll update on my weekend in a few minutes.

Yeah well everyone has to remember too my head went crazy just like everyone else's of the thoughts of them dining and doing things together, still do struggle, but I grab my mind and flip it to something else because the longer i think the worse I feel. And also remember that i had almost 80% no contact with H for the 1st 5 months which I feel helped reduced stuff though he was nuts and lashed out at me and said horrible things to me. I think If I didn't have the no contact who knows if the progress would be made so far.

I have to remind myself who cares what fog date they are on LOL! Maybe they went to a movie to see "Fog on the foggy river" or maybe they had a bite to eat at "Foggy's" where they sipped fogachinos...LOL ok it made me laugh.

They are both living in lala land and its not going to work. The statistic show this. Yes some go to affairages but most of those end up in divorce. They are suffering although they try to act like they are not and all the while we are concentrating on ourselves getting stronger GAL'ing and 180'ing. Someone is going to get the new and improved us and hopefully that will be them. SAA says most affairs die a natural death, what really matters is how long we can do it.

Everyone must protect their own love bank's too or we wont make it and it won't matter it they do come back because our love bank will be so depleted that we wont want them back, that's why pulling back and detaching is to protect you as well.

Wish ya'll could come here for New years eve...oh what fun that would be!!!!

T2L, did you have too much coffee today??? 3 of the same posts??? LOL..
then the fog jokes. I guess they are in fogaria (fog area), see I can make silly jokes also.

When my older D comes for Thanksgiving, she wants to put up posters in OW neighborhood. I have a picture of her dressed as a witch (how appropriate), she wants to say "Do you know .... at ...... st. is more than a witch",,she is a mother, grandmother, cheater and homewrecker (keep your husbands inside)... and all this happened at work.
and then put "Dad come home..."

This is what one of her friends did and plastered the whole neighborhood and it broke up her H's A. I told her I thought my H would go crazy and completely deplete any love bank but as most of you know my older D was the OW when she was 21 (does that sound familiar), and she said her biggest fear was exposure of her A to her family (which we found out after), and to her friends and job. She always worried that someone would tell us. She said "h@ll with Dad", this will embarrass him everytime he goes there. any thoughts....

count me in for new year.
TxMom -- will look at your post

Yeah New Years Party at T2L's!!! LOL

any thoughts on poster idea...My older D is worse than I am.
Also just found out my H got promoted 2 months ago and never told me. Now instead of acting Mgr he is full mgr over OW. Nice to sleep your way up to the top with the boss. Sure his other direct reports would love to know that.

That poster thing is hilarious! Idk if I could do it but its funny as all get out. Might be fun to put it all around her home since all her neighbors might feel differently about her! LOL


Hmm did more pay come with promotion? You might entitled to some of that!

Yes more pay came with the promotion..probably about 10% more. Sometimes I feel like putting pressure on H saying that OW has a week to leave -- either both of you or her. But if she doesn't leave and I turn them in I don't want them to say I am harassing them.

D15 called -
H just sent her another text -- saying he misses her, and he is there for her and loves her. She tells me she is sending a text back -- Right now I do not want to see you, talk to you or text you. You have lost my trust and I do not respect you.
I told her think about it for 1/2 hour before you send it and not to send it in anger (unlike her Mom)

OMG my girls are tough.

Will see how we feel when older D flies in about the poster. Might make for some fun for Thanksgiving.

Hope so where is my script and acting debut????

Shouldn't his superiors be worried about this? If he does something to make her mad she can file a sexual harassment suit against him and the company.

It would be in the company's best interest to remove one of them from their current position/department. You might have someone point this out to one of his bosses.

Just my two cents.