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hey LIS i was mia today had a bit of a mishap i sure did, well now I wanted to check on you, for real? nothing? i was sure the chit would have hit the fan by now!

I still got your back, and maybe with a hand cast lmao!!!

hugs!

Not much to add right now other then stay strong and take care. You are doing the right things. Thinking about you.

(((lwb))), MC, frank, (((BG))), yenko

Thanks for all your words and encouragement. BG, I'll take you with one arm any day!

Sorry I haven't got to your threads folks. Time on the computer has been limited today.

Just checking in. Night was relatively peaceful - helps when W out of the house. She got home at 11:30 and D11 and I are watching tv. She goes downstairs and makes up the sofa bed. Comes up and says that I can sleep there tonight because she wants to "sleep in". Says this in front of D11. Anger in her voice.

I say nothing... because D11 and I had already decided to have a "camp out" in the basement because tomorrow is a holiday here.

Tomorrow night, back to the bedroom...

Some fun, huh Bambi...

Lost, I don't know if it'll be the same for you, but after I told OMW what was going on, my W didn't say a word to me until I broke the ICE. We were sitting on the couch and I could just tell she was steamed so I finally said "I thought you'd have something to say" and BAM, that opened the flood gates!

May be the same for you. Give it a day or so and if she still hasn't said anything, maybe you have to give her an opportunity to unleash!

H4U

Thanks for the suggestion. I think I may indeed be facing a boiling pot myself.

You mentioned before about sitting back and smiling - I certainly get that! Had doors slamming upstairs last night and I could just sense the grin on my face. Exhilarating - you bet. Kind of a weird high almost.

Take care bud.

Make sure you do that!

Like H4U, when I exposed my wife's affair, she was LIVID and didn't say anything for a couple of days. I think I did finally break the ice, and yeah, we got into it. But I just rope-a-dope'd her -- she'd say she was PISSED, and I'd say "I understand. I'd be pissed too. But I did what I thought was right." Or "Everything I've done, I've done to try and save our marriage and our family."

That just pissed her off more.

Eventually, she calmed down, and -- get this (and this happened on more than one occasion) -- she was then actually NICER to me.

Respect.

Puppy

Same here Pup. Especially after this part of the conversation which took place a week and a half before the family was going to Disney World for Thanksgiving (which was the morning after her screaming at me for telling OMW).....

W: Well, Happy Thanksgiving and Merry F'ing Christmas to me!
Me: I'm sorry you feel that way.
W: I might not go to Disney next week.
Me: I'm sorry you feel that way, but me and the boys are going. If you don't want to go, it's your choice, but we're going and we're going to have a good time.
W: F you.
Me: Ok. I'm going to work.

Oh, the memories. I'm smiling just thinking about them. It's sick, but it's amazing how you feel when you start standing up for yourself.

Liberating.

PDT and H4U

What do you guys think? S13 and I are off on our vacation starting Thursday. Should I let the pot simply simmer (ok boil) or not?

Right now I don't think she has a clue what I might do next (which is sit back and watch). Maintained silence would be interesting.