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LOL mishka, I was checking in on Donna and saw that too, and I thought "Where is that? I would *love* to read it!" lmfao. I'll post to Donna to see what she meant by it.

I am kinda stiff. lol But I love my job. H does too.

Unfortunately, though, I think our crazy schedules led to us growing apart. I see this now, and regret it.

You sound really good. Must be something about living in the Midwest. lol Ex is throwing bankruptcy up at me as his chance to take care of the kids. What a delusional man. so very glad you don't have to deal with that kind of cr@p!!

I'll check in late when I have more time.

kat

Hey. friend...are you enjoying our cold weather??? I was not quite ready for it to drop so low. I am amazed with how well you handle your Ex. It shows YOUR strength of character and I think it is wonderful that you put your children before your hurt. I think I would be able to do this as well if OW were not involved. For some reason, knowing she is in the picture still makes me bitter. O'well, that is my cross to let go of at some point. You are doing great. Thanks for checking in on me!

Yep. Everything.

Your strength and attitude about the whole blecky sitch continue to inspire me, love. You're awesome - and beautiful!!! I saw the pic in the other universe of you and your babies in their red dresses ! They look so happy - you are doing a wonderful job, Momma!

(((((((lwb)))))))

Hey lwb, you were asking about lodo's last post...

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1631052

Take care,
gF

hey there toots))))))))))) look what the cat dragged in, lol!

thanks so much for checking in me, I haven't posted in ages! I thought I'd be drama free forever, silly me.
I hadn't realize your little girls are so close of age with mine (d5). Perhaps you can help me figure out how to deal with my d5's sudden change about being with her father. All of a sudden she doens't want to go with stbx and I dont' know how far to push that, to talk stbx into letting her stay with me? to just make her go even if she doesn't want to?

anyways, hugs to you babes))))))))))))

Quite frankly...NO! I am not enjoying the weather. It is not my favorite season. I have to literally hide the girls summer clothes, they hate bundling up. lol But if snow comes, then I am happy.

Oh and broken, I would like to *think* I would be handling this the same if OW were still in the picture (who knows if she is, but supposedly she is working on her marriage), but I don't think I would be. I do not want the girls around her. Someone new would also suck but at least that person didn't contribute to the end of my marriage. Make sense? Anytime something happens with a new girl (if I catch wind of something from xH) I chant to myself, "At least its not ____ (OW)"

gForce, thank you so much for the link.

GF, my girls were Sharpey and Gabriella (from High School Musical, since you have boys, I wasn't sure if you knew! hee!)for Halloween. They are sooo funny.



I will face this too in the future. nocodeblues already deals with this from time to time as well. I suppose I would say to my girls "Well, this is Daddy's time. Mommy will get tons of errands and cleaning done while you are gone, that way when I see you again, I won't have anything to do but play play play!". Its a hard balance between letting them choose and forcing them, I think. UGH

xH took the huge TV last night. It was decided months ago that he would, and I am fine with it (other than his clothes and tools, that's all he is taking). He was very weird last night about it, asking to take it, then saying "Oh its ok, I'll get another one, you keep this one. I was waiting til you were ready". I said "I think I am ready for you to take a TV that we already agreed upon, take it". He put our old TV (not really old, and still big, just not *as nice* lol) back in its place, and hooked it up.

D6 walked downstairs this morning and said "What did Daddy do??". They weren't upset when I told them Daddy took it to Grandpa's so he has a big TV to watch. D6 said "Yeah, Grandpa's old and needs a big TV to watch". lol Love those girls.

Man oh man... ms. lwb..

You get a gold star and sparklers... I love how you approach things and keep your focus on what's most important.. the kids.

How does it feel as he removes what is 'his' from the house? Does it bring relief?

I'm in the opposit position where spouse has little to do with his kids by his choice... perhaps because they're older. It still sucks for them not to have much time with their father.

I figure the better I am at directing my emotions at spouse rather than the other, it works better. A big chunk of muck just fell off recently. I feel so much better. Capable, and knowing I can take care of things.. except.. god help me.. PAPER. I hate all this paper crap!

*hugs*

Oh Gypsy, I can't tell you what a relief it is to be done with the paper stuff. Oh, it'll feel so good for you. Even now, as we are tying up certain things (have to wait 30 days to get a certified copy of the decree), I can't WAIT for it to be done. I am sure the attorney is, as I bother her constantly.

And yes, I still feel bad when xH chooses his time over seeing the girls. I can't imagine what you are going through. You almost have to mourn the loss of your husband, and help your children mourn the loss of a stable father figure.

How does it feel for him to take the things from the house? Hmm, not bad, that's for sure. I suppose, its just another chapter of moving on. The peace of him being gone is still there, I can't believe I lived like that (with him living here, basically dating) for so long. There was no other way, especially for the girls, but it was the hardest thing I ever did.

I didnt have to wait for 30 days till i got the final D decree papers.

Getting my name change was an ordeal though.

Several places wouldnt change it even w/ the D papers unless I changed my driver's liscense first.