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OK. so here's an update.

We were supposed to go to a movie today as a family. The S nixed the idea after the W offered to buy them a toy instead.

so she leaves to go to her mom's about 1:30pm and didn't come home until 7pm. Our S reminds her that she's supposed to take them to the store. She tried getting out of it; but our S wore her down. so she takes both kids out at 7:30 to go buy toys and a few food items.

Less than an hour they return empty-handed. My D has been crying and my S won't come in the house. The W tells me that her paycard she switched to will only allow her to pull $100.00 out every 36 hours. I ain't never heard of that; I think she probably spent all of her money. Anyway, the kids are disappointed.

She tries to say bye to them as she immediately is bolting the house for who knows where. They won't even look at her. W mumbles something about feeling like sh!t. Then complains that they are spoiled any way. I didn't disagree with that statement.

So she grabs her laptop and bolts the house in tears. I tried to tell her not to let it get to her. There will be times in which the kids get disappointed.

She did inform me that she wouldn't be back tonight; so I'll have to give the kids baths and put them in the bed. Then I'll start my usual day tomorrow. which means do it all.

The W told me today that she is still planning on moving in with her g. parents to help nurse her g.mother. She said that her G.father didn't mind if the kids stayed there. but I told her that the kids need to be here on school nights. Not that they couldn't go over there during the afternoon/evening; but I wanted them back at the house for bed on nights before school. She agreed.

So I guess we're doing some negotiating.

That's all for tonight.

I guess negotiating's good...as long as it's going your way (or more importantly...and I know that right now the two are one in the same...the best way for the kids).

Hope you have a great day!!! I'm going to try to work most of the day and only check in periodically...we'll see how that goes!!!

Love ya!
Amy

mC--Just catching up. Your S gets the most logical thinker award for buying the DVD vs. the one-shot trip to the theater. That made me laugh as it is something my S would probably say. For him and D that the W let them down on the fruitless trip for a toy thing probably reaffirmed that their mom isn't the mom they remember. What happened when S came in from the car? Did he come looking for you? I would think W moving in with grandparents will just be a disaster that disenfranchises her from her family further. She isn't going to want to take care of grandmother if she isn't willing to own up to being a good mother to her own children. Maybe she is looking for validation that she isn't such a horrible person by being the caregiver to her grandmother. So now she is failing your kids, what happens when she starts failing her family by foregoing her caregiver duties to go out and party? She is trying to find the easiest way out where she doesn't look any worse than what she already does IMO. More craziness from our W's!

hey tom, thanks for checking on me today, i messed up my hand, pretty good lol.
hugs to you. hugs those kiddos from auntie traci too ok?

Will do, take care.

Well, the kids got disappointed again today. After last night's disaster at the store when they didn't get their promised toy, the W said that she would buy them their toys and they would have them when they got home from school. We got home and, of course, no W and no toys. No explanation either.

S asked when mommy was going to be home. I said I didn't know. He replied that Mommy should start telling you when she's going to be home so that you know. What a concept. I just replied that Mommy's grown, she can do whatever she chooses even though we might not like those choices.

So now, he thinks that he'll get it tomorrow. I hope he doesn't hold his breath.

She was here at the house during the day today and from the phone I can see that she was here at least until one hour before we got home. She doesn't have to work tonight; so who knows what she's doing.

I was looking online and noticed that she's looking for events out of town during my next weekend in Cincy.

Right now, I struggle with wanting her to be a good mom, so that the her relationship with the kids doesn't suffer in later years; but I want her to suffer for what she's doing to the kids and what she's done to me. I'm having to keep my actions and thoughts in check so that I can't be accused of parental alienation. But sometimes, I just want to take the kids and leave for GA. Other times, I wish she would just leave the state and let us be. This coming and going whenever she feels like it, with no regard to any set time that the kids will see her is beginning to have an effect on us.

My S wants me to call her and ask her when she's coming home; but she doesn't answer my calls at night, so why bother? Yet, I don't want him to think that I'm keeping him from her. She is such a piece of work.

Vent out...feel better...wish she'd just get her stuff and go.

wow tom that would be really hard about the kids. i am so sorry for them. I would have to be the mom that when kids that age asked me to call, would have. not good dbing i know.

I am so proud of the dad that you are.

love ya bud

MC

Just caught up on the last few posts. Your W and mine - maybe we could convince them to be Thelma and Louise and hit the road.

What do you think? Peace in the house. Sometimes, I am there...

Alright, let's do it.

(((((MC)))))