Thanks everyone. And yes, its wonderful that xH is so generous. I feel very lucky.
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It's tough to see someone being nice to you after dissolving the marital relationship with you.
Yeah, its just plain weird!!
Onto more FUN things:
WEEEEEEEEED! Can't wait for tomorrow. Time with D4 all morning, D6's party in the afternoon, then Halloween!!! Then I have a date Saturday night, with my girlfriend (she will be D'ed in 2 weeks, she is a LBS). Excited!
What a fantastic Halloween!!! It was lovely to have it on a Friday, with no school the next day. Plus, it was 75 degrees! Unheard of, and fabulous!!!
xH came after work, and went trick or treating with us. I figured he would do our little court with us, then go out for the night. But he stayed the entire time, walking us and many other unaccompanied kiddos to the next subdivision. He was very helpful, very kind, and seemed to be relaxed and having fun as well.
Little D4's legs tuckered out, so we left D6 with some other adults and headed back. He got us settled in the house (little does he know D4 wanted to go back out and sit outside to hand out candy) ha!
It wasn't weird or hard or anything blecky having him around. I am thankful for that.
Unfortunately our entire street knows about the divorce now. Some have told their children (this makes me so mad, because I asked the people I told to NOT do this). I just talked with xH and I told him we have to tell the girls everything tonight, before someone else does. He isn't happy about it, doesn't think we should tell them anything.
I am very upset about facing them, couldn't sleep a wink. I know now that they will come through this ok, but their little innocent faces, and questions that will come...sigh...
xH said he will be there and that's good. But oh man.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughters' father, along with warm fuzzies and non procreating dust bunnies, as you both talk to the girls. I'm with you.. the worst thing would be finding out from someone else.
xH was not thrilled I wanted to tell them tonight (he is in never never land where he doesn't face reality well). But he showed up and was supportive of it. Quiet, but supportive. We (I) told them and they were ok with it. No tears from anybody. A few questions. I am sure more are coming. But I feel so much better that its 'out there'. I would have been devastated if someone else told them.
I know it was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. I was surprised when X was the one crying...it was just before the truth of the affair came out, so he was still holding in the guilt (it turned to anger at me after it was out in the open).
I am amazed at the strength and grace you have shown through this...
So glad that Halloween was good for you all, though.
