K, For what its worth you may want to look into and try the Love Dare (its an inexpensive and simple to read paperback book) as soon as possible. You may think this is rather silly of me after all you've been thru' but having looked into it I think it could help a lot in your case.
Oh my goodness! I woke up this morning thinking the SAME thing but just now really had a chance to get on and post. Maybe we should just get her H's address and send it to him, instead!
K, hon, you know how much I have prayed for you for this. The Love Dare is an amazing book that will help you rediscover your relationship and love for your H. I have learned so much, even with not being able to actively follow the book, due to my H's deployment.
Give it a shot, and lead your heart back to your H.
{{{{{hugs and love}}}}}}
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Hi friends, I've been "caving" for a while. I dont have much to report from H anyway. I still live on Separated mode, he is happy (ier) I am not. I have been clear with him on a couple of occasions regarding what I want and he seems understanding and everything, but time is always the problem.
I can see he is really trying and he feels he must approach me carefully but on the other hand as I told him the way we are going it will take us 3 years to finally get to talk over a few things. I told him that I need him "to stick his neck out there" and risk to get rejected, to hear "nos", to feel uncomfortable if he wants to be with ME. I asked him to flirt with me like he would flirt with a woman he is crazy about but still doesnt have.
I am frustrated and lonely. I am a bit disappointed already but I cant overlook his intentions. Only "the way to hell is full with good intentions" or something like that, btw, do you have this expression?
I know what he wants. He wants me to lead, to suggest, to make arrangements and I dont feel like it, and he is stuck and we both get stuck. He wants the Sunshine back, the one he has been watching the last few months, he is eager to follow, he is holding back his excitement but I cant get motivated to do it.
I've been thinking hard how to handle this situation. I cant find a solution. I dont know how to let go and just do this. But I cant keep complaining about it. It's my choices that brought me here.
So take care everybody, thanks for checking on me, K
its strange - the opportunity your H has is one i would love to have!!!
But I can add - and I have alluded to before - if he is a typical DAM - or even a half baked DAM then he will be looking for signs from you - you are looking for signs from him. Something has to break this impasse... what would break it for you? what would break it for him?
best - GFI
And - thanks Kalni for stopping by my thread - you gave me lots to think about!
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
