Ok so I had this dream. I meant this dream was in High definition techno color......... In this dream I had an affair........I felt so guilty. You see I do know the person that was in the dream. I not only felt guilty around my Wife I did not want see that "person" at work today...
But Yes I know it was only a dream.
So here is what I am planning for my "date" in 14 more days...
We are going to our time share. I am going to get there first. I want it to kind of be like she is coming to "my house". It may be raining (I hope) because there is a fireplace and I think that would add to the atmosphere. I am planning in just having light snacks the first night and margaritas.. I am going to bring some board games to play. And I am just planning on having a good time. What ever talking she wants I will go with the flow. I WILL NOT BRING anything up R wise....The next day there is an Indian casino by there and I thought we could stop by there for a little while, (neither one of us has been there. upon returning to our time share. Sometime later that evening I was planning on giving her a surprise of a bubble bath complete with candles and maybe rose peddles in her bath.(And a rubber ducky) I would draw the bath light the candles and maybe have some nature sounds playing in the bathroom. I will have a glass of wine ready for her. I would then lead her to that bathroom with her eyes closed. When we got there I would tell her just to take the bath and relax. She has not done that in years. I would then tell her to let me know just before she is ready to get out because I will have a towel in the dryer getting warm for her when she gets out, (I am going to find a little bell and have her ring it when she is ready) I will tell her I will be in the other room and to call me if she needs more wine. And then I would turn and leave her there. AND I will go watch T.V or something.. NO expectations....No other real plans.. Just kind of make the rest up as it comes along....
I think my attitude will be a major part in not making it seem like I am expecting anything or putting pressure on her. I am not... I am really looking forward to just getting away and not caring about anything. I am tired of being a "responsible adult" I want to play............Now when I say "play" I do not mean have sex... I mean just.....play...have fun. The little boy in me wants out.........
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Ok update time... I am trying to ease wife's concerns that I am planning to jump her bones.... today I told her the board game I was planning on bringing to our weekend and asked her if there was any other game she wanted me to bring and she told me of one...
Other things going on... Tuesday I need to take my Mom in for surgery. She is having discs replaced in her back. I forget what it is called.. Anyway she volunteers at the local "soup kitchen" distributing food to the homeless. She was all upset the she would not be able to do it on Wednesday. I told her I would take the day off and take her place. (sounds like fun, maybe I can finda date there for Friday... Just kidding) My MIL is doing pretty good, I have not had a chance to go see her since this week end so I am planning on going over there Friday and then I may do a little GAL down town after.. It has stopped raining and I have some clean up to do. Next storm is due Sunday. I hope it is raining on our "date night" there is a fire place at our condo. (Well a Gas one). So I think that will add to the "mood". Again everyone rest assured I am not planning on ANYTHING except having a good time. I still need to find that rubber ducky though..
OT any input??
Later Dr LOve
Last edited by Dr LOve; 11/07/0801:56 AM.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
today was a good day but......I am finding I am my own worst enemy. I really need to watch my "attatude". Wife is doing great with hers right now. It is hard for me not to read things into it like.. She is being that way becasue I am not pursueing... giving kisses or hugs...... But I don't want anything to get in the way of our "get to know each other" date. I am trying to 'pretend" in my mind that we don't live together right now. I don't mean I ignore her or anything but I am trying to trick my mind into thinking that this person I am living with right now is my Old wife.... The one I will be dating soon is going to be my new girl freind. Don't know if I am making myself clear or not but I understand what I am trying to say.It's like I am brecking up with my old wife and will be dating somebody new soon. only it's the same body just a differant person.. It sounds better when you have had a drink.....
Later Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
lol...I understand what you are saying. Really, you ARE getting a new life and your wife IS different now than she was when you first married her. Good way to look at it.
Your date will be wonderful. Thanks so much for your advice. It was helpful. I'm going to use it today on our date. Ok, better get going..haven't gotten out of jammies yet.
It may be raining (I hope) because there is a fireplace and I think that would add to the atmosphere. 
I am planning in just having light snacks the first night and margaritas.. I am going to bring some board games to play. And I am just planning on having a good time. What ever talking she wants I will go with the flow. I WILL NOT BRING anything up R wise....The next day there is an Indian casino by there and I thought we could stop by there for a little while, (neither one of us has been there. 
upon returning to our time share. Sometime later that evening I was planning on giving her a surprise of a bubble bath complete with candles and maybe rose peddles in her bath.(And a rubber ducky) I would draw the bath light the candles and maybe have some nature sounds playing in the bathroom. I will have a glass of wine ready for her. I would then lead her to that bathroom with her eyes closed. When we got there I would tell her just to take the bath and relax. She has not done that in years. I would then tell her to let me know just before she is ready to get out because I will have a towel in the dryer getting warm for her when she gets out, (I am going to find a little bell and have her ring it when she is ready) I will tell her I will be in the other room and to call me if she needs more wine. And then I would turn and leave her there. 
AND I will go watch T.V or something.. NO expectations....No other real plans.. Just kind of make the rest up as it comes along....