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((VS))

I am so happy for you Sounds like things are going GREAT on your course!!!

My H is onry to say the least....if he knows not texting me back will get to be...he will not text back...just to be onry! I always called him my little "sh%thead" which is exactly what he is!! LOL!!!

I feel much better after he and I talked. I ended by saying see you thursday...he was like k..c ya thursday. so sounds like all is a go for C on thursday. I am going to ask him to go out for a beer afterwards. He is on vacation this week from work....worst he will say is no! Figure why not??!!

((VS))

Christa

you go girl!!!

VS

VS~

Thanks, I figure, it's worth a shot...worst that will happen...I will use my 9iron instead of a wedge here!

can you believe the only golf i play is on the Wii!!

LOL!!

Hope you have a great day!!

It's freakn cold here!!!! I am soooo not ready for winter!! LOL


christa

Christa

You play a mean round of golf for a WIIer. It is going to work out.

It is raining here today and they say for the next 4 days. The last few weekends have been great. Lows in the 40s and highs in the mid to upper 70s and sunny. Next weekend looks to be another great two days. Great for riding.

I am ready for winter. Our winters range fro 35 to 60. Most of the time no snow.

Stay warm. Keep your head down and your butt dry.

VS

(((Christa)))

Well how are we doing today?
Are working or in class?
Anything from H?

VS

(((VS))))

Had to work today....12 hours....it was busy!!!

Keeps my mind pre-occupied though!

No word from H...that's ok....thurs. is almost here

Say a prayer...I'm really hoping he will want to join me for a beer afterwards I need him to see the not so hard-core side of me...that MC has about it...I want him to see the fun-easygoin-everyday, girl next door, person who I am becoming....not the person of the past who keeps getting brought up in MC....got to get him to do stuff outside of MC....

thanks for checking in on me....it's much appreciated

hugs back at ya
christa

((((Christa)))


I am praying for you. I one thing I have found out about offering an invitation to my W, I try not to have any expectations. I mean I try very hard not let my W see my disappointment when she turns me down. I try to have a frame of mind that If she does not want to do something with me I am going to do it regardless lf she goes are not.

If you do not have any expectations you will not be so disappointed when H turns you down. I hope I am making since. Be caviler about his answer. You may be really disappointed, but do not show it.

I know it's hard on you. I have the same problem. I want to show my W how I have changed for the better. Like you I have come such along way in the 5 months. I like the new me. I want to share the new me with W. But I have also found that she has not been working as hard on her problems as I have. I am light-years ahead of her on this issue. We have recognized that we have problems and want to fix it. Our respective spouses have not realized or have not spent the time fixing them selves like us. We are much better for it and we have to share our newfound patients and understand with our spouses. Because we have learned so much about ourselves and made the required changes to make us better, we need now to help our spouse achieve the same level of self-interruption and help them repair themselves.

This maybe overly optimistic, but what else do we have to do. We are the strong ones. If we do not work toward the goal they will not by them selves. So what do we have to loose?

Do not have any expectations about the answer you get from H .

Take care! Keep Your Eye on the Green. Let know how things go Thursday.

VS

(((Christa)))

I know you are totally involved in your sitch at this time and you do not need anyone interrupting your focus, but I need your advice or at least an ear to talk too.

The last two weekends with my W has been absolutely tremendous. We made a huge jump forward. I have been feeling unbelievably great and happy, until last night. W called and we talked for about 40 minutes. She repeated to me how great the last to weekends were. She felt like Cinderella with her Prince Charming. At that least that what she called me last night. This part of the conversation was really good. I had sent her an email expressing my thoughts about the past weekend, include a short poem that I had made up for her, and attached a song "Unchanged Melodies". I asked her if that was too much and she said at first she did think it was too much until she heard the song. She said the song was one of her very favorites. She said that she does want me to send her something like that every day, however.

She said she still does not know what she wants. She really likes her independence and that she has a lot to work out in her mind. She does not want to have any sex with me right now, because she feels if she does I will think she is coming back and she does not know if that will happen. She loves the dancing in the living room and the bath I made for her was really great. I told her that I truly want her, but only if she really wants to give it to me for the right reasons. I said I really want to reestablish our emotional bonding first then the physical can come later.

I guess that after what happened between us the last two weekends it has given me a false since of confidence. This morning reality has set in. We are not out of the woods and the last 2 weekend were great, but we still have a long way to go. Like I said in my last post to you I should not expect anything more than what I get right now. I should practice what I preach. LOL

If you do not mind could you give me your thoughts on this? Am I going down the right track? Is this all for not?

I need some of your inspiration or validation if you have any.

Have a great day!

VS

((((VS))))

Neither of us are going down the wrong path. We both have big shoes to fill to show our respective S's that we can do "this"!!!

It's time to dig our heals in and fight...

i know/feel God has put this crazy dream of working my M out in my heart for a reason....i watch joel osteen when i get down on myself...he is good, he always says, when we are closest to our dreams/victories...the enemy fights the hardest!!! dig your heals in, you can do this, and you are doing this....keep fighting the good fight

she's coming around....look at the progress you have made since we first started chatting in October!!! WOW...holla!!!! you've come to far to turn back now!!!

again, think of me...ex files for D...now we are in MC, i just send God my thanks, for each baby step along the way

TAKE CARE OF YOU!!!!!!!!!! <--------- #1 priority the rest will
fall into place!!!!!

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christa

Thank you very very much. You are right. We need to keep fighting. We are making progress. I just need some one else to say it to me. Take Care I am here
((((((Christa)))))))