Yeah, A has got it going on right now. But I'm leery of his sitch because me and the W have been at that point before. The best thing about his sitch is that he has this place and I only found it now. So he may be successful.
I don't know if I'll LRT or not; will have to play it day by day. I just want off this ride, ya know? I still hold on to the dream of a united family; but I think it's just that, a dream. I really don't want her, just the idea of family. It's tough!!
I've been a little emotional today; just thinking about the reality of it all. Thinking about what we are going to go through; but I'll God guide me and see where he takes me. I know that I'm going to stand up for my kids. I don't want to keep her out of their lives; I just know that right now she's in no shape to give them her full attention like I can. If she works on herself, who knows what the future may bring. I just know her and right now ain't her time.
Your head is in a good place even if you are having a bad day. Don't worry there'll be worse days than this and then lots of better days. Even my anger filled days lately have been better than those right after the D was filed! Maybe you won't have those because you are better prepared. Feelings are fleeting and betray you so much of the time!
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
Learned so much about men!??!! We are simple creatures.....feed us....keep us clean......ask us how our day was.......but don't expect an answer.....and we will be happy forever!!!
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
Are you ? You definitely need someone that you can vent to in real life, help with perspective, & be a healthy sounding board.
Books are good, but you probably want a professional to help you with the specifics.
Hang in there. You're doing great with the kids.
From her POV, she's dying inside. She's doing anything & everything to numb out. I recognize it well.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
