I like the idea of trying a bit of flirting when you speak to B next. Maybe we can come up with some ideas when the recital is over? In the meantime I'll put my thinking cap on and try to come up with some saucy ideas!
Thinking of you and your cell playing awesomeness!!
((((Lovely Cello Playing Queen of the Universe))))))
How did the concert go?
I've been thinking of phone flirting techniques and I think there are a few things you could try....
1. Say hello with a smile, but say it in a sexy kind of way. Think 'Hell-o' rather than 'Hello', or 'Hi' 2. Smile the whole time- fun and friendly is flirtatious 3. If he says anything vaguely naughty, turn it into something rude. As an example, CEO told me a few weeks ago that he was running a fever. I responded by asking if he was hot, but saying the 'hot' in a bit of a flirtatious way. 4. Drop in something a bit naughty about yourself that he wouldn't expect. 'I was playing the other night and it was so cold in the auditorium that my nipples got really hard. It was so painful I could hardly concentrate on my bow-ing' Or something similar. Then laugh as though it's not dirty at all!
I probably wouldn't use all of those techniques in a single call unless you want his pants to explode, but maybe try one plus the hello and see how that goes? Slow burn rather than a big explosion is what we're going for!
I hope you had a great weekend and that the concert went brilliantly. When are you going to call him (or have you already and are in paroxysms of phone leasure as I type?!)
Hi T! Thinking of you! Hope your concert went really well. I will write an update on my thread soon.... Anyway just know that I'm thinking of you and am so proud of you for following your heart and being true to yourself. xxx
It is so good to read your posts!! Lisa, you made me laugh so hard. I think I am going to *print out* your post and highlight it and ... practice!!! and try some of those techniques! Essie, I'm very eager to get an update on your situation.
The recital went really well. I was SO stressed before I performed, but I think it went really well. My parents came down from Virginia (12-14 hour drive) and they were so supportive and loving!! My cello friends came, and some of my yoga friends too, so it was like a collision of multiple transformer worlds.
ALSO, on Saturday afternoon, the day before the recital, I got this text from B:
Are you playing your recital soon? If so, good luck! I hope it goes well and you are able to enjoy it with your friends.
It made me SO HAPPY to hear from him out of the blue. So he must have been "Keeping track" of when my recital would be. I still hadn't called him back, so it is interesting that he reached out. I think this is maybe the fourth (?) time he has initiated a contact out of nowhere... and the first time it's been through a text.
I waited an hour and a half and then texted him back:
Good memory! It's tomorrow night and i am excited! Thanks to the recording you sent me I had a big breakthrough on the franck [one of the pieces on my recital]. Have an awesome weekend!
I tried to think of a response that would encourage a response from him, but I couldn't think of anything except to ask him what he thought of a link I sent him, and in case he didn't like it I just decided not to ask.
So I guess i can call him whenever I want now?? Even though my recital is now complete, I have an oral comprehensive exam on thursday that I am going to be busting my tail over for the next three days, and then monday after that is my first try to pass my piano proficiency... BLeguhdkkdfj!!
Eagerly awaiting your thoughts as always, LOVE, tRANSFORMER
That is so great that your recital went well and that B texted!! I'm so excited for you. He just did something a friend would do... stage 2! I reckon you are almost there and that is because you have been amazingly patient and then been your wonderful self with him. Also a text isn't planned like an email, it is a kind of throwaway type thing which means you are in his thoughts
I think you did right not eliciting/ hinting at a response. Shows your GALing but still appreciating his efforts.
I thought perhaps after you have finished your exams and stuff you may be able to initiate a meet up? What do you reckon?
Good luck for your oral exam and piano! Did you look amazing in your green dress? Perhaps if you have a picture you could send him it with a sample recording of your playing just to remind him how absolutely fabulous you are!
((julia)) thanks for your post and your encouragement! I think it is highly possible he and I could meet in NYC in Dec or Jan or even both. I am just home studying for the next couple days so I have "time" to call, I am just avoiding it. the topic I asked him for help with, basically, "what should I do with my life after I finish grad school [hopefully] in december?" is so big, I am avoiding both the topic and talking to him. the sources of stress are compounding!! LOL!!!
the green dress was actually a disaster it was totally unflattering (I did not know v neck floor length gowns could manage to be unflattering) and also the lining was narrower than the overskirt so when I sat in cello playing position the lining hiked up and showed my legs through the translucent overskirt material which instead of being sexy just looked wrong. As soon as I tried it on I thought, there is NO WAY I can wear this because it made me feel so dowdy! I am going to try to get a refund! I ended up coming up with a Fashion Emergency Backup Outfit of this cute blue silk dress I bought for no reason at all that turned out perfect. PHEW!!!
I feel weird sending him a picture of myself... though maybe that was what he was doing telling me about his myspace fiddling site? Same with the recording. Unless I wanted to create my own myspace music site, but that would probably just tempt me to start spying on him... I did find some more inspiring links that I would like to share with him, though.
thank you ALWAYS for your advice and encouragement!! LOVE!! T
The blue dress sounds ultra foxy! Cello isn't the most ladylike of instruments with legs akimbo!
I can see why you wouldn't want to combine the sources of stress, on the other hand B may be a good sounding board. It seems as if he has used and appreciated you being there for him in dilemmas lately and stated that it had been really helpful to talk things through with you. Would it be a 180 to discuss things with him?
Also, would sending the pic and recording be a 180 weird or just weird weird? I don't know what others think on these things...
I quite like the idea of arranging something in December... NYC at Christmas! You could do fun Christmassy things... ice-skating or such like and showing off your new found flirtatiousness.
Lol! Tell me to back off if you like. I'm just throwing ideas out there, hoping not to compound your stress levels anymore.
I'm excited by your sitch T. I think the fact that he sent you such a timely text is great!
You delight me. "180 weird or just weird weird" made me laugh so hard out loud. It means SO MUCH to me that you keep throwing ideas at me. There are times when I am like a volcano of ideas spewing them forth and writing them down. Other times (like now) I am just scratching my head wondering... is this "working"? so your input is SO helpful. thank you your excitement about my sitch too. I got SO excited and happy and I love having your excitement too, to back me up!!
It wouldn't be a 180 from "before" for me to discuss my deepest hopes-dreams-fears with him, but I haven't done more than mention them lightheartedly in passing since the bomb, so it would be a post-bomb 180.
I am thinking that the pic & recording might just be "weird weird"... if I had been REALLY ORGANIZED I would have made a foxy poster for my recital and then forwarded it to him (maybe in a "fake mass email" that was really just for him) but I totally ran out of time on that one. Not sure how to do that now... thoughts?? My brain CPU is being consumed by studying for my comprehensive oral exam tomorrow morning.
Right now I am just going to put my head down and power through the next few days to pass my comp tomorrow morning and also try to pass my piano proficiency on monday.
Though I did have an idea in the shower... that I could call B and interview him about his experience of performing the de falla and franck. It actually would be extremely helpful to get his perspective and I could include it in my presenatations tomorrow. I could even go as far as to ask him to scan the violin part into his computer and email it to me but that might be too much pressure.
What do you think, guys?
I might be pulling an all nighter anyway... (nervous laughter) (WILD CACKLING LAUGHTER)
after all this school cr@P is over (or at least I get a little breather)... maybe over thanksgiving break (next week) I can call and try to start setting things in motion for a december rendezvous
GOOD LUCK tomorrow! Not that you're need it- you'll be AMAZING as you always are.
I think, yes, call B and ask him about the de falla and franck. You have nothing to lose, right? And he gets an opportunity to help you with something. I've heard that men love helping out lovely ladies, so he might be really happy about that.
I'm so happy too that he texted you and was thinking about you. Julia and I were talking about it yesterday and both really excited. I can't wait to see what happens next
L. xx
PS. Is your thumb better now? I hope so- sending healing vibes!
it was totally unflattering (I did not know v neck floor length gowns could manage to be unflattering) and also the lining was narrower than the overskirt so when I sat in cello playing position the lining hiked up and showed my legs through the translucent overskirt material which instead of being sexy just looked wrong. As soon as I tried it on I thought, there is NO WAY I can wear this because it made me feel so dowdy! I am going to try to get a refund! I ended up coming up with a Fashion Emergency Backup Outfit of this cute blue silk dress I bought for no reason at all that turned out perfect. PHEW!!! 