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Couldnt we all just chip in for a maid service?? Then there will be more time for margaritas!!!

Has anyone thought about the "carnal" pleasures??!!

Carpenter - I absolutely love the maid and margarita ideas!!! I have to say, though, I've found it best just not to think about the "carnal" pleasures at all...in my sitch, it only brings frustration!!!!

Wow, MC...that's a bunch of stuff coming from her! I honestly didn't think she had it in her. And, she might not...I guess we'll see if the agreement comes!

I agree that she shouldn't be taking the kids overnight...especially on school nights. My H is trying to be a great dad (and for the most part he's doing okay), but even that's been tough on school nights...I miss notes from the teacher, S6 misses returning things cause they aren't in his backpack, etc. I think that's a fair argument.

Hang in there!!!! You'll get through all this. I know it has to be tough, but you are tougher. I can tell that...and, it just means you are that much closer to Arizona. Stake claim on a good house for me, will ya?

I'll be here rooting and praying for you and the kids.

Hugs to you!
Amy

MC

I also heard the words "amicable divorce"!! It's a load of chit IMHO.

Look up the definition of amicable.....it doesn't really go with divorce!

MC,

Hang on bud. I have been dealing with L's now since Sept 29 - it gets sillier all the time IMO.

One suggestion - GET YOUR OWN L. As Puppy has said, there is a reason for the "v" on the papers where it talks of Mrs.MC v MC.

Stay strong.

I'd say this is a distinct possibility...you've shown plenty of evidence that most of her actions are about how things "look"...and if you have custody..then that gives a certain impression (like...the truth!). Tread carefully. We'll be praying for you and those kids!

I have my own L and plan to use him. I'm just not letting her in on my plans. She can get diarrhea of the mouth if she wants; but my responses will be through my L.

Thanks, LIS

54, it's only amicable if she get what she wants; how she wants.

Thanks, Bro.

BTW, she's been wearing her rings again since two days ago. She was wearing them this morning as she was informing me of her settlement proposal. Weird.

MC,

1st bolded point - PERFECT. Do not even talk about anything contained in letters / documents to her. Stay If nothing else, may drive her nuts.

2nd bolded point - how frickin true this is!!!!!!!!!!!! If your W is like mine, anything but this means you are ... ready for it... CONTROLLING!!!!!!!!!!

hey tom, checking in on you, hang in there bud, i am so glad you HAVE the kids, please fight to not let her have them, that gave me nitemares last nite for real!

Glad you have your own atty. With your journals you should be able to make a good case. Remember the stuff from BPD411 site about going to court against a borderline? She is probably going to go really nuts on you. This is the can of worms she chose to open, you have to deal with it like you have everything else, the best you can. My hat is off to you Tom. Wish I could go get James and we'd have some beers!

Thinking more about this and how things will change. Because you are going to have to weigh your "What is best for TR now? vs. What is best for my efforts to save my M?" options. Because you have to get W out of the house and then it is LRT time if that is the road you choose to go. I'm too jaded I guess to offer an impartial opinion, just trying to do some thinking for you regarding what is the next step after you agree on a settlement. You made some R talk with W and if she is pressing for settlement you know that coupled with the fog isn't going to save anything. Cheeseles tunnel there for sure. Show W you respect her decison and let her deal with the consequences. I look at A in Ohio and wish that were you, James and me for the sake of our kids. Things seem to be swinging his way.