NoCode, Thanks so much for stopping by my thread. It's been uplifting to see the welcomes from so many DBers. I see you're still trudging along in your sitch. But it sounds like you're truly rising above it all. Telling myself "it doesn't matter" has been a regular mantra with me.
A good friend of mine lost her H in late August. He had a heart attack. He was 53. Their second D was just out of college and they were looking forward to vacations they put off, etc. And in one afternoon he was gone. That was what pulled me out of the rut of dark despair where I had spent most of the summer.
Hello, again, Joie -- yes, life is all too short for some of the senseless behavior we have to endure at times. Sometimes we just don't realize how precious the lives of our loved ones (and of ourselves to others) can be until it is over. I am sorry for your friend.
Karen, I'm sorry for your and D8's flu. Please get well.
I haven't posted much of late. I've been so busy with work, and with taking care of my S's. I've also been to a couple of dinner parties -- including the start of a new Bible Study group (centered on Robert McGee's The Search for Significance.) I have been lending an consoling ear to several friends as they go through the turmoil in their own lives.
This evening I ended a 24-hour fast for my church. Our minister asked us to do so together from sundown on Monday to sundown today, as a spiritual cleansing, whilst praying to God for guidance concerning the direction we should take. We had already approved a new building project, but with the economy being in such bad shape and with finances becoming too sketchy as a result, we need to rethink whether breaking ground on an expansion project is prudent to undertake at this time. I've never fasted for spiritual reasons before. The fasting and praying has also been beneficial to my own considerations in figuring out what to do with my life going forward. Another chance to take stock and figure out my path ahead.
I still haven't heard from my L, but I can be as patient if W can. Personally, I'm in no real hurry, but I don't like the Limbo I find myself all that much.
I am doing okay off the AD's. I certainly now feel the full range of emotions, both extremes, even more than ever. I've found myself laughing or crying a lot more than I think usual for me, but maybe I am just a bit too focused on this than I should be. Still, if I see or hear something sad I sometimes have to fight back the tears.
Stopped by to say hello and give you hugs. Don't feel too bad about the ups and downs. We all go through a range of emotions. You are doing great my friend.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Well, if you are handling the ups and downs alright with AD's, then that is fabulous!
The limbo is so hard. I couldn't hack it as long as some. Its not that I want to move on with my life, I am not ready. I just need the pain to shift, to let up a bit. But if you are in a good spot yourself, stand, my friend.
What's up with your coming weekend? Any fun plans?
No big plans for the weekend. Just going to spend a little "down time" with my S's -- I get them back Friday evening.
I'm going to be working on S3 a bit. Although I'm not quite sure how I should approach him -- I need to be subtle but firm. He is getting into trouble at his preschool by being disruptive and using "potty words" (silly stuff like "Poo-poo" and "pee-pee" and "poopy-head") -- not in context and with the intent of getting attention and being disagreeable. It's obvious he's rebelling over something.
S3 hasn't been this way until recently. Oh, he's always been the little rascal upstart, just not to this escalating degree and not with the deliberate attempt to be disruptive.
W began grilling me last night about this. We have both recognized that S3 has suddenly started using these potty words and began using them more and more, despite being disciplined. And yet I gathered by W's tone she'd like to pin this on me if she could. She knows better.
S3's preschool has been going through a reorganization, and I think that is a major contributing factor. I also think he has a classmate who's introducing him to a new vocabulary. And it doesn't help that S7 just giggles and laughs whenever S3 starts getting ornery and saying silly stuff like that. He likes to instigate disruptions himself at times.
So we're trying to schedule a parent-teacher meeting with S3's preschool teacher, at her behest. And in the meantime and thereafter I've got to work a delicate balance between disciplining S3 for poor behavior without giving him the improper attention he is trying to steal.
(((((nc))))) Sorry I haven't posted in awhile.. Ive been MIA...
I have to be honest, Im having an affair.. with my new car that is :).... really its great.
Potty words huh... Aren't kids great!! S5 has never said anything...YET. I know he will pick some stuff up from the bus.. surely. But Im not too worried about him, its my soon to be 3 year old I worry about... this is the kids that writes on himself, eats glue, peas out the door on to my brick walkway instead of the grass, burns his hand on the iron today, and dumps my candle full of wax on his head... yup him im not too sure about!!
I hope your coping ok.
I guess i really don't make a big deal about poo poo stuff.. I just tell S5 its not nice.. but if he said SH%$ then we would have a problem. I think with the innocent stuff, the more attention you devote to it, the more they will say it. just my .02
Hope all is well
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Hi NC, Sorry, but I had to chuckle a little when I read about your son. You are right, the older ones are good at instigating!
I remember when youngest DD was around 3 or 4 and my older DD was around 6 or 7 and she taught her sister how to "moon". Oldest DD had been mooned by neighbor boy next door who was about 10. Yes, it's a vicious cycle. Anyway, MIL was over visiting one night and the television was on. Youngest DD goes and stands in front of the television and proceeds to "moon" us all. I could have died!
So as you can see I'm not a good one to give advice about a little one! LOL
Have a great weekend with your boys!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
And in the meantime and thereafter I've got to work a delicate balance between disciplining S3 for poor behavior without giving him the improper attention he is trying to steal.
So hard to do, huh?
I go between my battle to make D4 feel loved and appreciated as a little sister and making D6 feeling loved and appreciated for being a big sister. lol
