I just got back. It wound up starting at 8 instead of 7 like I thought. They had us get there an hour early to set up so I had D8 come with me while we got ready and set up. So she was only babysat by S14 for less than 2 hours, so wasn't too bad.
I was pretty mad at H, I think I have lowered expectations of him but have to work on the no expectations! GALing is so great b/c playing a ghost and tour guide is just so silly was kind of the right thing to do and get my PMA up! Hope everyone else had fun tonight too!
Karen, I, too want to say CONGRATS on the job! Way to go!!
I just saw that you posted on my thread in piecing! I have been overwhelmingly busy at work the last 1.5 weeks. Before that I was just not feeling well. I do need to GAL more. As I said in my own thread, I wish we were all closer.
Howdy to you H4H! And thanks for the congrats Joie and Yoyo! I'm getting nervous now, but should be fun!
I have to take D8 to her psych appt. today. She goes every 3 months. H emailed he will meet us there. Guess he wants to play the role of a caring, involved parent with the dr.! I'm getting to be so cynical, but hard not to sometimes. I dread seeing him. I'm definitely feeling like I wish he would just disappear or something!
Did anyone see Desperate Housewives last night? I had watched it sometimes but not a huge fan, but I'm really liking it for some reason this year. Lily Tomlin is a new character (I think Karen's sister) and I love the 2 of them together. And apparently Tom is having an MLC according to Lynette and it looked like he's having an affair now on last night's episode. If so, what an idiot b/c Lynette is such a great wife and mother, my favorite character on the show!!! Hope everyone's having a good drama-free day! Karen
Still hate to see all the affairs all over the place!!!
Took D8 to her psych today. H insisted on going, said he had it in his calendar. He showed up one minute before the appt. and D8 ignored him and was interacting with me even after I said your Daddy's here she said I know and went back to interacting with me. H spent the few minutes before and after the apt. on his crackberry, I mean blackberry. He did leave it alone the 5 minutes we were in to see the psych. She asked how D8's been doing and H jumps in right away fine, just fine. At least she is with me! I said well actually she does continue to have meltdowns as she always has. Things like when the computer freezes, or her favorite dress is in the washer (gotta wash it sometimes!) and things like that. She's had many meltdowns when he was at the house and all through her life, I was like wth? And then he admitted she is with me a lot more (yeah like 95% of her awake hours) and that could be it, and he has seen her meltdown over the computer a few times. I remembered of course on my way home from the appt. he had told me she had a major meltdown at his place when she lost one of her Pokemon games and couldn't find it (the day S14 locked and broke the bathroom door) and he was all stressed over that. I'm thinking he wants to look like good parent rather than be honest like I am for D8's sake. Guessing he will want to use her psych as a defense witness for him, and feels like he has to lie or something to do that.
If I do have any love for him, it's covered by such a thick layer of disgust right now, I can't feel it anymore. He's such a _________ (fill in the blank with a really juicy word please).!
The one consolation over this is that I do think when the kids are older they will look back and remember who was the stable parent always there for them. He can't fool them and as they get older I would guess they will realize more and more. I do think he's not the same person he was the first 16 or 17 years of the marriage! Karen
Well I am sure your daughter's psych. can see through your H's bs. He doesn't seem to know your daughter very well and sees her meltdowns as a parental "flaw" and not for what they are.
My ex gets all 'mushy" in front of the kids when he was never like that before the A. They aren't stupid, they see the guilt sweating out of his body, so I have no doubt that your kids know who has hung in there with them through the good and bad...good ole Mom.
Hugs,
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I think nervous is probably more the right word. Haven't worked for 9 years-- I work at home but you know what I mean.
H came over to our town to vote, guess he hasn't registered yet in his new county. He was sick so spent the day with the kids, took a nap, etc. I asked him if he was going to stay if he could stay and watch D8 from 3 to 5 for 2 hours while I volunteered at the afterschool program. He comes over to me at 2 and says you said you were going to leave at 2 like all mad at me. I said it's 3 to 5 and I asked you to stay for 2 hours, so you must have thought I said 2. Probably doesn't listen very closely anyway. I'm not taking crap for him anymore, no apologies for when I haven't done anything wrong. Getting more assertive with the attorney when she pulls her weird control stuff too. I don't think I will ever be an agressive person, but am working on being more assertive with people like my L and H. And soon I'll have them both out of my life--can't even imagine.
About a week ago, I was thinking I'll be D in about a month (although my L now says it may be longer than that b/c H's L is being uncooperative.) But I thought about being single and kind of had a rush of happiness. I'm scared about being broke, but everything else will probably be a lot better I think.
I kind of can't wait to get tomorrow over with at the new job. Hope it works out ok! Karen
