Well, I think I'm getting over the problems here. I'm rather convinced now that W is not a standard WAW. Rather she's just upset that I won the last fight so well. Alas, I don't think she'll ever get over the problem without a lot of help.
You see... She filed a sheriff report against me that included blatant lies (She said I was delusional, had a personality disorder diagnosis, and was sneaking around the back of my own house.) The deputy involved trusted her and really did a number on me.
Now, in response, I took the attitude that when you lie about me and get me in trouble then it's fair for me to tell the truth about you and get you in trouble. Not very mature, I agree. So knowing of felonies that she's committed, I threatened to reveal her crimes unless she corrected her lies. She chose instead to confess her crimes, associated with her work, to her boss. Well, she got in serious, serious trouble. I believe that she'll loose her job within the coming year.
(I too suffered here in that the report, whether or not the county prosecutor ever files charges, means I'll never have above-top-secret clearance again. Though I have to admit that I doubt that I'll ever return to so intense of jobs as busting Saddam's bunkers or dealing with the software used by the 9/11 air traffic controllers. (Oh, the stories I get to take to my grave...) One story I can tell: did you know that the stealth bombers in GWI had to fly from central Missouri to Iraq and back and navigate through the Straits of Gibraltar at over 10,000 feet--Just because our allies (with the exceptions of Turkey and Israel (whose airspace we declined to use) wouldn't grant over-flights?)
Now she apparently she was told that the only way to prevent my exposing her was to file for protection orders and restraining orders. It's really odd though. As I see it, I can still call the harmed parties and tell them what I know and agree to testify and all of the court orders in the world won't do her any good. Of course, I'd never do that. I surely wish that I could undo even what the two of us have done here.
The good news for me is that if she ever heals from losing this game of brinkmanship I believe that we can patch things back together. I've decided though to assume that she'll never do that and GAL.
The lawyer says that the separation should be signed on Monday. I think after learning the reason for the D wasn't something significant and W is just pouting I've decided that I'm not going to worry too much about the harm the D will cause her. I'll reconcile in a moment and offer everything I have to do so, but ...
I guess I feel that I can't fix her problem here. As far as I can tell I would need to be hurt badly by the filing. I'm actually healthier, happier, wealthier, and more content. I'm told now that she expected me to come begging. She expected my business to fail. She expected all the mutual friends to side with her and attack me. She expected my cancer to make me so sick without her. She expected me not to be able to handle meds or finances. She thought she was going to get all that done before Thanksgiving. I guess I was supposed to have crow instead of turkey.
I thank everyone here for helping me beat those expectations.
