Well, I think we made a big leap instead of a step. I could not have paid for something like this. W came home to get ready to go to the Gala. We had a great afternoon having lunch, doing some last minute shopping and took a short nap to rest up for the dance.
W bought a new dress and she made the dress look absolutely beautifully. The Gala started out all of the rest of these job related night out, but it ended with something I could not believe. It was almost like being in a movie. When the fundraising part was over the band started playing. The band played nothing, but fast music. Everyone left, but the W and me. It was just the two of us in a ballroom of about 20,000 sq ft. The dance floor was 50' x 50'. We were the only people in the great big room. There was a five-piece band and us. I walk up to the band and said if they would play some slow and romantic music more people would dance. The first song they play was Unchain Melodies. I dedicated to my W. We dance by ourselves on the big dance floor with a five-piece band for 1˝ hours. It was great!!!! The W love every minute of it. We got home about 11:45 and cuddled on the couch by candle light until 2 a.m. Then we went to bed in separate rooms. We got up this morning and just talked. I took her out to my motorcycle and she sat on it, we both set on it and took some pictures. As she sat behind me on my bike she laid her head on my shoulder. I rocked the bike back a forth very slowly. She made satisfying noises. It was great. I told her that I really enjoyed cuddling and she said she did too, very much.
We talked about Thanksgiving and Christmas. It sounds to me she is falling fast.
I am sorry for going on and on about this weekend, but did I say it WAS GREAT!!!!!
I hope you are doing well and you are getting ready for a great turn around for your sitch.
So my weekend not as a great as yours!! Tried to text the H twice...no response to either text!
first text was to say, hope today was better than yesterday
second text was..."it takes strength and courage to make it through situations like these...you have both...you are the strongest person that i know...we can do this" It may have been a little over the top...but just wanted to send something positive his way.
let me know what you think
he didn't respond.
my friends said they would go to comedy club, but would prefer H be 100% on board with the idea. they don't want him to feel they are pushing in any way. her and i are working together today. i am hoping when H and I have C this week we can talk about this idea, and I can get him on board.
HUGS and great job!!!
Christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
I think that was a good txt message. It was positive and not pushy. H maybe just thinking. Tell your friends just to act like they did when you guys went out before all of this went down. The first "date" I had with W was at a job related social event. Not everyone at the table knew what was going on, but the ones that did played it cool. Like nothing ever happened. It worked out pretty good for me. It was nice that W had some one else to visit with beside me. It cut down on the stress of talking to each other the inter time. It was hard to think about things to talk about other things beside our sitch.
H will come along, but he maybe a little specious of your motives, so try and convince him it just away to get together for a good ole time. That is, after all, that is what it is all about. To spend time with each other just to have "A" good time. Relax and be your new self.
Keep You Eye on the GREEN. One stroke at a time. Slow and steady swing. Play the hole that you are on and don't worry about the next hole until you get ready to Tee off for it.
"I think i am done with texting until C appt on Thursday"
I think that is great idea! You are just worrying about no get any response back. He is trying your patients. He is pushing your buttons and he knows it. He is pushing your buttons. He wants you to loose your cool.
"I am overly flustered!"
Of course you are flustered. You want it to happen so bad you can taste it. It is flustering to you because you were the one that walked and he should be to one working hard for you to come back, but he is not.
But you are much, much better than that!!! You are wiser and stronger than that!!!
You have more character, You have more integrity, AND You have more pride than that.
Stop worrying about what his is not doing. Work on your plan. Make him play by your rules. Do not let him force you to play by his rules.
TAKE CARE!! I am always here. Hugs back to you. VS
Thinking and doing things out of the box works. Extraordinary situations call for extraordinary tactic.
Did he say why he has not returned your TexT messages?
You are pretty dam smart lady. Do you feel better? I know you will sleep better tonight.
Keep your positive frame of mind. Play your game. Use your own clubs; you know them better than anyone else’s. You are the only one that has the feel.
My W went back to her appt. tonight. She called to tell that she arrived safely. Told her that I am not as happy when she is not with me. I told her that I want to give her the love the support, the nourishments, and understanding that she should have had along time ago. I told her that these last two weekends have been the most happiest I have had in a very, very, very long time. She told me that this past weekend was the happiest and had the most marvelous time she has ever had. She said that she is already look forward to our next visit in to two weeks. It is going good for me.
I am doing real well.
Now lets get you going the same direction. It will come.
He didn't respond...and that is ok...just so he knows i am thinking about him and our M!