Fish, it's not all black and white! She isn't all good or all bad, there's lots in between. That said, there are obviously issues in the way you two deal with your life together. They need to be addressed and both parties must be willing to do so. Reconciliation is still possible, it's just going to take more effort than you first imagined. It can be done but, as I said, you gotta take your time and do it right. Last time you two rushed into it with blinders on, this time the blinders are off! That's obviously a good thing. So, calm yourself down and think through where you want to go with this, if anywhere. There's lots of time!
