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Awww,

Very good!!! I have a good feeling too. Seems like something must be in the air tonight. I'm sending you good thoughts for an amazing night!

ITH

Wow Sep that's awesome! I hope he does visit you. That might make it easier to build a bridge to seeing each other again sometime soon. I know. . .one step at a time. Just sayin. . .

Can't wait to hear if there are any updates Sep!!!

ITH

(((Sep)))

your PMA is so inspirational! Hope you are ok

Jx

Hi All!! Thanks for the well wishes but the whole weekend was a bunch of missed opportunity....GRRRRR.....

Well Friday he was casually texting all day and then I didn't hear from him for awhile. As I was about to leave work my BF calls and asks if she can sleep over because she just needed to get out of her house. While driving to her house H started texting asking about my plans I told him that I was on the way to get BF, so he got a bit upset and and said he is not passing by. Instead of getting stupid I just said "ok, have a good night and I will talk to you later" we actually had some joking texts back and forth for a little longer and that was it.

Then on Sat morning I felt bad and texted him "I had a VERY vivid dream about you last night I close tonight at work and then am going out for a drink after. Hopefully when I get home you can pass by" He immediatly texted back, "Maybe " Then again during the day just some misc chit chat. At night I got home pretty early but wasn't sure if I should text him right away so I waited a bit then asked him if he was awake. He texted me that he went to bed because he thought that I was going to be home later and he was tired. GRRRR!!!!! I actually got a bit frustrated and was a little buzzed so I did do a no-no and write "Wow, 3 nights in a row shot down, I'll take the hint... Sorry to have bothered", he wrote back "Oh please, I'm half asleep woman. And again I thought you were going to be out late" then he just wrote "Sorry Goodnight"

So today BF came over again and we were just hanging out and veging all day. I decided to back off of him and see if he was going to do any pursuing. Well he started texting me about 9pm asking what I was doing and saying that he wanted to pass by after seeing some of his friends. I felt bad because my BF had said she was going to sleep over but when she saw that he was texting me she said that she would leave and she knew I wanted to see him. I felt bad and told her no, but she insisted that she was going to leave. So I texted him "Are really coming over because C is here and said she will leave if you are coming over, otherwise she is sleeping over." He said to tell her to stay and then she got mad at me that I even told him that she was there. She said that I just should have told him to come over and let her leave. Well long story short she is gone and I am not even 100% sure that he is still coming over!!

Hey Sep

Sounds frustrating. Although at least you guys are trying to get together. Think of it as building the anticipation!

I hope you guys work something out soon!

Thanks Daisy!! I guess the positive in this is that there has been increased communication and he has been trying to see me.

I do hope that he decides to pass by soon but I am starting to get sleepy myself now. Damnit!!!

Hehe. Hate that!

If not tonight then another night soon. It will work out the way it is supposed to, when it is supposed to. So you don't have to stress!

You got your PMA up and you're doing fabulous! I'm really happy for ya Sep!

Thanks Daisy!!

Well he did show up last night .

It was wonderful!!! He was very much into holding me tight and we fell asleep in each others arms after ML. Then when he woke up and just went on to his side of the bed and fell asleep again but we remained touching. He woke up again in the early morning and got ready to leave after he was dressed he sat back on the bed and said he was tired and just wanted to stay sleeping but he had to work in the morning. Before leaving he leaned over the bed and gave me a kiss and told me to get some sleep and then texted me when he got home to say he got there.

I just felt so happy after he left like everything was going to be ok. I know we are still having babysteps right now and that is fine as long as they continue in the direction they are going. The other thing that I just remembered was that I kinda pushed the envelope abit and was very affectionate like running my fingers through his hair and rubbing his back and he did not pull away at all!!

Yay!!!!

Sep this is amazing news. not only did ML happen but he stayed the night! I see staying the night as the real baby step. Actually though, I think these are more like toddler steps that you are describing. I also think that it's very sweet that he texted you when he got home.

What are your next plans going to be Sep? Did you 2 talk last night at all or was it purely physical?

ITH