Um, Wii, pneumonia is quite a serious thing! Are you sure you should be mucking about all over the place? Surely, you should be in bed, sucking down anti-biotics?
Make sure you wrap up warmly .... knowing your neck of the woods, it's probably freezing cold.
You're probably right, BM. I spoke to my mother last night and got a serious lecture on "why did you go back to work last week?" and "you should be staying home tomorrow...and no church on Sunday..." She says this is "your problem", I never just stop and let myself get better. I'll probably just let STBX take D11 out tonight and I'll man the candy distribution end of things from her warm house. Besides, D11 says she needs to be back by 8:00pm to watch wresting! Now THAT kind of frightens me Hey, you get better to Sol!
Just caught up - maybe you being sick is related to your recent "poor-me-ville" trip? I bet you are feeling better all over in no time...
Have fun with your D tomorrow.
Hi Donna, I think the trip to "Poor-me-ville" was a combination of the one year anniversary of our separation and the onset of this illness. It's hard to keep the happy face on when you feel like crap and you start seeing the downside to things more than when you're full of pep and positive vibes! I also picked the wrong time to change churches as it gave those bad voices in my head a chance to say "Hey, you messed up again! You don't belong anywhere". Of course, coming to terms with where you feel best to be spiritually has nothing to do with failing, it's got to do with making choices that fit best with who you are. If I had of chosen to stay somwhere just because the people were nice but allow the worship style to keep me from connecting on the level I should be with God, well that's failure. So, much of what I have to do is once again start looking at the possibilities in my life again rather than what I've lost. But again, grieving and sadness should never just be pushed aside and labeled negatively, unless it's taking over your life, because it's an important part of this process. Thanks for looking in on me!
Halloween is over for another year. I guess you've all been waiting with abated breath wondering whether Whatis stayed home like a good sicko with Pnemonia should! Well, you bet your ass I didn't, I drove my D14 to her sleepover and then returned to take D11 out for Halloween trick or treating. Afterwards it felt so good to just sit around what was my living room with STBX and D11 going through her goodies. We had dinner together, watched some TV and chatted...wow, just like a family! STBX, of course, did not inquire once about my health but when I returned with D11 from trick or treating she had a hot drink made of ginger, honey and lemon waiting for me. That's her, can't express any concern or caring but she'll make you a drink to help with the symptoms. It was a nice gesture on her part. So, all in all we had a nice night, it was kind of fun watching STBX going through D's candy excluding all made in China products and watching for bar codes of recalled items she'd heard about on the news. Finally, she told D in that order to make sure she, D11, remained safe that she, STBX, would have to eat all her candy. Hey, that was actually a humorous comment. So, I have returned home with D11 and have sucked back some cough medicine and now will tell everyone I stayed home like I was told to
Hey whatis sounds like you had a great night! Think of this as being more with your kids than with the stbx. It was nice of her to give you a hot drink though. Accept the nice things you encounter in life and don't think of it as anything more. I know it's hard to sever the emotional ties we have with our ex's - heck even I have those annoying recurring flashbacks about what I once had with the ex. Funny thing is that my x keeps asking my daughter if I have a girlfriend - what does she care? Anyway, without going off-tangent here (like I usually do) just wanted to add that hopefully you can have more of these nicer events as a group. And yes, I'm sure it felt like being a family again - to the kids that's what they see, and as the sane parents we should give our kids the best childhood memories! They will remember that about us when they are grown-ups!
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Trust me Sol, if STBX and I didn't have two amazing children to raise together she would never see me again! I tried to show my kids the right way to deal with a hurting R and now I am trying to show them the right way to deal with a broken one. I still have a family. It's a lot harder this way, but it's what's right. If you give up what's right because it's hard then what do you teach your kids? I'm no martyr, I'm just a Dad trying to be a good example in the way I choose to live.
You're right about the ex's sticking around because of our kids. If I didn't have my lovely girl, I would probably just move away from my ex and not bother her again, but our kids are always gonna be the glue in our broken families. All we can do is make them the best we can right?
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
I'm about to head off to pick up D14, drop her at STBX's and then head out for dinner with my best friend. I attended church today and found out that we are having a Singles event in a couple of weeks, it sounds like fun! So, Whatis plans to go BUT not alone, I'm gonna ask my woman friend, who is also single, to go with me. She's always interested in finding places to meet decent men (no luck so far!) so we might be the perfect match for that evening. I'm not looking to meet anyone, just get out and mingle and have a good time. I'd rather go with a friend, it will be less anxiety provoking! Wow, my first singles event..."come and get it ladies, here's a man whose been dumped by his W of 17 years, come and pick over the remains!" OK, I need to work on that opening line but I've got time Honestly though, I'm actually impressed with myself here, despite having taken a few body blows this past year, when the opportunity comes up to try something new and a bit frightening I'm still up for it! Whatis will not be kept down and now, if only he could stop referring to himself in the third person! Later Dbers.
I wish I could send my STBX to a singles event with a note pinned to his shirt, "Comes with his own baggage". lol Sorry, that was not nice. Back to confession, again. Peace.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
Hey, the best part is that my STBX has agreed to take the kids that night so I can go. Somehow it just seems right after all the times I minded the kids while she was out messing around!
