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Victory!!! My W is keepin the 05 minivan....470 a month! She actually tried to trade it in a month ago....what a wake up call!! She actually said " we have never had a problem buying a car before"....operative word....WE!

I would take her key and replace it with the keys to the Saturn. GAME ON!!!!

(((S&S)))

Actually, I want the Saturn? Maybe I can get her out of that and to Pluto???

Anyway, one more day of peace left. Then W returns. She will be pis$ed because she wanted the 4 of us to clean the basement and the garage while she was gone... and we just didn't get to it. Not on purpose (really), but we were busy, other things to do. Besides, basement room she wanted us to clean has been the way it is for months - not a big deal. We did some... just not all.

So between that and the last letter from my L that her L received a day after she left, I am sure it will be absolutely joyful here on Thursday...

As has been said, GAME ON! Because, "frankly my dear, I don't give a damn"... this is OUR FAMILY HOUSE and if you dear W would like some other arrangement, as hard as it is for me to say because I do still love you, you are free to go! It is not what I want, but it appears to be what you desire. I do not like where we are at, but I cannot force you to stay - just like I did not force you to marry me 18 years ago.

There... had to say it.

Lost,

I think it would be a good idea for you to expect her to have something in mind when she gets back. It has NOT been going according to her plan so far (poow babeee), and she's had this time away to think and scheme in consult with OM, no doubt.

I would expect a play, possibly on the legal front, but I'm doubting it because reality may be setting in there as to how weak their hand is. More likely an escalation of her "punishing" behavior, a ratcheting WAY up in order to try to make you SO miserable that you want to leave.

Remember, you may not want her at the moment, but this woman still knows you, I presume, more than anyone else on the planet?? Let me ask you a question: if YOU were in her shoes, and were going to try to attack you, how would you do it?

Puppy

PDT

That is a good question. She knows my weakness is the k's. They will be glad to see her and she will play that to the max. Start doing more mom and k things would be my guess.

Not really sure what she has left. She has tried legal threats, tried rude comments and behavior, abuse, monetary bullchit... don't know what else there is.

I know this is not the time to let my guard down. But I am tired of all this. Have 24 hours to build back up and get zoned in again...

All of you guys ROCK!!!!!

My w just got an 08 Kia Rondo. WE are paying 375 for it and I dont have a key yet??

That will change soon.

Joe

Uranus?



Shes got the same shoes to get glad in. If her "cleaner" aint broke, let her have at it. My H does this same sort of thing and my response is now,"The only person it is bothering is you, so do something about it yourself or let it go." You know what they say about wanting in one hand....

Even if you really want the Saturn, I would still drive the '08, mainly just to jack with her. I believe what Puppy says too. She will come back with a plan, try and figure out what it is and the best way to diffuse it. The best defense is a good offense. If you give her something to focus on - you driving the car, she may forget about whatever it is she is planning and just act on that instead. Keep her off balance.

Even if she comes back singing like Snow White and farting butterflies and rainbows, the kids won't buy it for long. They have seen too much the last couple of months to buy the "Disneyland Mom" routine. Might actually be amusing to watch. Kids are great at truth darts too. They might enjoy it at first, but then they will wonder why she is being a phony. Just my $.02.

Have a great day and take care of yourself.

I thought of that one, but... maybe some kicks while in the vicinity of Uranus on the way to Pluto...




(((S&S)))

Thanks. Just to clarify, the 08 is the Saturn outlook. We are on the same page.

The K's are smart. Kind of funny - haven't asked a lot about mom this time. No tears from D11 that she misses mom this time (a first - she usually has one melt down). Now the older two have been texting her, but what kind of freakin parenting is that??@@@@??? I will be taking the Outlook more and more. Will have it at work tomorrow when she comes home.

Make sure to pass gas in the car on your way home from work.

S13 is waaaaaay better at that than me!