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LE

None of us are ready to accept. We will know when it is time. LE i know u having some hard days, try to call the kids at night and tell them goodnight, i know its hard because u have to go thru W. LE i know a part of u wants to move on, and the other doesnt. Your not ready, the door is cracked, u know that. I pray for u and your family nightly. Just know were here for u. By the way BG left a rope out for u as a lifeline the other day in the wide, was thinking it may blow u by. LOL Take care LE

Glad you're still here LE. I feel your pain bro. My family has asked me why I haven't filed yet. They want her gone; but I feel so sorry for what my kids will be forced to live with as an alternative. Is the current situation any better than the unknown that may lie ahead? That's the question I think we wrestle with as loving fathers.

Take care my friend.

LE,

I feel ya, pretty much same situation here. Only thing I can say from my own experience that may help is to walk away for a bit, no calls no nothing. Take care of the kids when you have them and take care of yourself.

I'm finally meeting with my W after a near month of no face to face contact and we live blocks from each other. Kids ar a complete wreck and in constant trouble so trying to figure out what to do for structure for them. Thinking of piching family couseling, don't know if she'll bite and jsut think it's a ploy for MC, abeit, she put the D on hold.

Hang in there.

And hey, no picking on the Windy City.

oooops dday lol, I have always wondered why they call it that tho, cuz it sure is windy out here on the plains of ks!

LE glad you didnt leave us yet, but even if you have too, I will still be finding you, and will always have a lifeline out to you! so glad the back is feeling better!
great big ks hugs

I can't imagine living a couple of blocks from my W. She pretty much owns the town, so me being there is really going to be uncomfortable if I try for shared custody. No way to make that work unless I live in town.

I hear you on the kids being a complete wreck. I just wish something could fall my way. Someone would expose what W is doing or say something to somebody to get her to wake up to the damage she has done. W is happier than she has ever been of course. I haven't heard anyhting from her now since last week. I am dark, so she is dark.

LE,

As I said, my W and I were the same way, I think it was 3 1/2 weeks of absolutely nothing.

Now, We talk every night for about an hour if not more, and have been messaging back and forth so much that my messages for the month are almost used up.

Truely, in my case, the lack of communication has been a good thing, whether it be for the R or M, before this dark period, we had become bitter enimies. I'm not sure if W is being 100% truthful at all in how she's making it sound how she feels, but we're civil, and that's good enough for now.

The only person IMO that can point out the damamge done IS the WAS to themselves. In my case, all our/her friends have asked her what in the world she thinks she's doing. She turned her back on them. Her own family has done the same, she turned her back on them.

And as for the distance of seperation, oh yeah, you have no idea. Although as everything with W & OM starts to break down, it's always nice to walk by coming or going from the train and NOT see his car there.

I only hope at this juncture she realises the impact this will always have on our kids as I have pointed many times. A fling goes on for as lon gas it does, this is their lives.

LE - Wondering where you went pal. You stay here until your ready and you will know when that is. Super dark to W yes, but really try and see as much of or at least speak to your kids as much as you can. My S6 won't speak on the phone but S2 loves too.

Surviving does not have to mean you've totally quit, it just means you've accepted the enevitable as I have. I'm moving on with my life knowing what's coming and learning to enjoy being me again. It still hurts re kids and what we planned to just be switched off without effort, but it is what it is. I've tried, but it takes 2 !!

GL buddy

{{{LE}}} glad I found you over here..sorry you've been having a rough time of it!! I'm sure, from "knowing" you here, that you make sure your kids know how much you love and miss them..and yes it totally stinks for them. I hear ya, as my hub won't even consider counseling when you said you wished your wife would have done deeper counseling.

I hope you have a better day and hope your back is doing better!

Tawnya

{{{LE}}} glad I found you over here..sorry you've been having a rough time of it!! I'm sure, from "knowing" you here, that you make sure your kids know how much you love and miss them..and yes it totally stinks for them. I hear ya, as my hub won't even consider counseling when you said you wished your wife would have done deeper counseling.

I hope you have a better day and hope your back is doing better!

Tawnya

Ugh..sorry computer was locking up and I posted twice ::hehe::

Tawnya