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I got his personal and work email address's too.



I have checked the county website that I have access to to check if papers have been filed for divorce. None have been. It would show. It would show if ANY legal paperwork has been filed. I found the papers I filed when I divorced the first time. Only way to really find out is to either ask my wife, which I don't think would yield me the truth anyway, or ask HIS wife, but I have not had any contact with her....YET.

Unless I speak to her, won't know about any other indiscretions on his part. I know she is about 17 years older. I saw that and thought to myself "WOW".

I have thought about the wife refusing some things from him. I know she has an ATM card of his. She's had it since early this year, so I know she can access funds when she really needs it. She is trying to be independent, but there is no way in HELL she is making it on her own. I'm barely making it myself. Having to rob Peter to pay Paul. She nets about $875 every two weeks. Her rent is $980 alone! Electricity, cell phone, groceries like crazy, gas, Time Warner bundle package for home phone, internet and cable, a loan she got through her work that she HAS to pay, MAYBE a credit card or two out of the ten that she owes a balance on. I know she took out a couple of small finance company loans, too. I don't think she is paying on them.

She HAS to be getting some help from somewhere. And now we have to be sharing a $300 monthly daycare bill. Not sure how she paid the daycare the first week payment and $75 registration fee on Tuesday. She could have written a check, as she should have gotten paid today. She just thinks that I believe when she tells me that she is making it. Struggling and no money left over, but making it. Like no help. Makes me want to smack her. She thinks I'm so stupid. She KNOWS I'm not.

So in your opinion, I should keep up the family time stuff? Everyone seems to be for the backing off from her now.

About his having kids. Just not sure. I heard one VM from him to her once and in it he had told her that "...soon it will be just you and me and the kids". The wife's tubes ARE tied.

I'm sure his wife and her lawyer would love to know that he may be using marital assets to pay for his girlfriend. It would be funny if most of his assets are actually his wife's and not split. The 17 year difference made me think this was a May/November marriage where most of the assets were hers prior to marriage and only the increase in value would be marital assets to be split.

I agree.

I sent her an email today.


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She emailed me back, "Thank you. I needed that."

She let me know that she will be working late again. She asked if I could have D7 call her because she wanted to find out how she liked school. Also wanted to know if the kids had their jackets. I emailed her back and let her know a couple things I plan for today and tomorrow and that they are ok with jackets. I also let her know that I will have D7 call her later.

Don't be so happy for me, beej.

I picked up my girls early today. We all got to the apartment to let the dog out for a bit and had to wait for S14 to get home. By the door, behind the sofa was a pair of tennis shoes.

D7 says, "Oh, those are Tom's". D11 had gone straight to the bathroom and didn't see them or just didn't comment on them. I go to the wifes bathroom and....

the bag was back. As I'm in the bathroom looking and D7 trying to tell me that she thinks that her mom must have found that stuff, she goes to D11. I then walk out of the bathroom and hear D11 getting on D7. Asking her why she said anything and that she had a big mouth.

Turns out that he still comes around. I lost my temper and sent OM a text,

"Quit leaving your sh*t out so that my kids know u were here f*cking their still married mom when they're not here, mother f*cker!"

I took his shoes and threw them out on the other side of the parking lot. D7 saw me taking them and I told her to go back inside. D11 is coming outside as I'm coming back in and asks me, "Why did you put the shoes in the car?"
"I didn't."
"What did you do? Did you throw them away?" She is saying this with a smile.

I told her to not worry about it, with a smile. We all have a quick talk. D11 says that she just doesn't care any more what her mom does and she doesn't care what I do, either. I asked her what that meant. "I mean when we're with you, I care. I just don't want any drama anymore."

S14 comes home and pretty much acts like nothing even though I had gone to get D7 a few things from her room. They were talking in the front bedroom with the door closed. Leaving, I ask S14 where some tv antennae's that I had left off before were. He said I had to ask his mom. I called her at work. She answered after a while.
"Hey."
"Hey."
"You busy?"
"I have a member with me."
I asked her where the things were. She told me, I said ok, we paused and then I hung up on her. I get the stuff and leave.

On the way home, I begin to talk to the kids. D7 had fallen asleep. S14 started on me about how everyone has moved on. Whats wrong with Tom. I let him know that its not right for married people to have boyfriends or girlfriends. He doesn't believe that. The we're not together, so its ok. We go back and forth a bit. He says that all we have is a piece of paper. Thats nothing. I tell him that isn't how we raised him, but that's what he has seen with his mom and dad and also his grandmother. He says that we need to move on. "You and mom keep bringing up stuff. Just leave the girls alone." We talk some more and kind of leave it. He takes a phone call.

I begin to talk to D11 who is in the front with me. I tell her I didn't know OM was still coming around. She begins to tell me that her mother had a talk with her a few weeks ago. How OM is NOT her boyfriend. Just a friend. "Mom says you knew they were friends."
I tell her the truth. He IS her boyfriend and has been for almost a year. I let her know I love her mom, that she is not a bad person, but she is upset. "How can someone do that?" I remind her that I told her that I would never lie to her. "Mom told me the same thing. Mom IS a liar."

We talk just a little more and we get home. I get a text as I pull up,

"dont ever text me again boy only warning"

I text him back. I know I shouldn't have,

"Don't threaten me, sh*thead"

He texted back,

"not a threat I promiss"

I left it at that. It was damn hard not to text him back and make fun of his spelling.

So now its time to finish making dinner. We'll see what the night brings tonight. Check in later.

I get a text back,

"dont ever text me again boy only warning"

Sounds like she picked a real winner, h4h. She might not see it yet, but she will. I can't believe he is over there with the kids around...wow.....

I have no problem with you texting that guy. He's with your wife and he shouldn't be. You have every right to get angry with him. Keep fighting for her. That guy's a jerk.

And how sad for your kids to now think that marriage doesn't mean anything.....

Way to step up for the kids, man!!

Your S might talk like that piece of paper doesn't mean anything; but your example will teach him otherwise. He's under the influence of the W and the OM evidently. He probably sees you giving up as the quickest way to end all of the drama.

Take care bro.

BOY!?!?!?!!!! Oh my hell, I'd be pissed. My reaction would probably be to start in contacting this idiots wife.

I'm sure cooler heads should prevail and I applaud you texting him, but his texts back make my blood boil for you. What a POS!!!!

Take care and I'm sorry about your S's feelings, that makes it harder.