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Logic is not in MY wife's vocabulary. Never was. Always ran on emotion.

No matter how much I want to put her out of my mind, she is still there. We are still married. I don't think I'll EVER give up on her really. I say I am. I believe I want to. But I don't.

I think that I'm just crazy.

Maybe it's ok to still feel that way as long as I still feel good about myself.

Just a little contact with the wife today. I missed a call from her work phone just after 5pm. Her VM was her reminding me that JuliAna went to daycare today, so don't forget her.

"Ok, so then I guess I talk to you later" in that sweet high pitch voice. Kinda fakey.

I call her back on my way home. We talk a little. I told her that I was on my way to pick up the girls. She tells me that Juli had a great day, but that she didn't get off the bus when she was supposed to. The bus still pulls into the apartment complex drive way and stops in front of the daycare so that the kids that attend can get out. Then the bus pulls further into the parking lot of the apartments and hangs a uturn to come right back out and stops at the mail boxes where the parents from the apartments get their kids. The teacher had to go get my daughter, but were talking maybe 40 yards.

I tell the wife that I tried to call the daycare but they didn't answer. Around 3:30. She says they might have been busy getting kids together, but that SHE had called at about 3:45 and spoke to them.

Again, we were thinking the same thing at pretty much the same time. 15 minutes off.

I ask her, "So my names on the list, right?"
"Yes, your names on the list, thank you very much. I don't know why they didn't have your name on it the last time."

Ya'll might recall, the wife enrolled them during the summer for like two weeks before she figured it out that we couldn't afford it. She set it all up without really telling me. I went to pick them up on the first day and they didn't have my name on the pick up list. She swears she put it on there, but she only had me listed as a parent. She assumed it wasn't necessary to list me as a pick up person.

My reply to her today was, "Well I guess they're just retarded."

She tells me that she'll call them when she gets out of work and we say goodbye. I pick up the girls. Juli did have fun today and liked it. She better for $300 bucks a month. We go pick out some more videos and head home. Getting out of the car, the wife calls. She gives me the, "Hey you" again. Asking if we are home yet. I tell her we just got out of the truck. Gathering stuff, I tell her to hold on and give the phone to D11 so they can talk. She also talks to D7 and then they get off the phone after a bit.

Later, D7 is out and D11 going to bed, she comes back to me and says, "Oh, I have to call mom before I go to bed."

"Oh really?"
"Yes, she told me to."
"Ohhh."
"She did. I'm not lying."

I wanted to remind her how she always forgets to call me before bed, but I don't.

B had called me today while I was picking up Juli. She was telling me about some drama with her ex and her daughter. She asked me to be honest with her so I told her that it sounded like she overreacted and was immature in how she handled the problem. I told her that we have to be the mature ones.

I took my one advice tonight.

I almost sent the wife a text telling her goodnight, tonight. If I had, I would be kicking myself. But I was planning on sending her one tomorrow. I have a choice of two. Gonna throw her off a little. The first one is,

"A friend just called and said there's some dumbass running down the road in sh*t stained underwear. Where the f*ck are r u going? Let me know if you need a ride."

The other is,

"Obama was on CNN this morning & he said he economy is so bad that he saw 3 mexicans swimming back to mexico, so I decided to check on you."

Ok, I'm not sure I'll send them, but they're funny to me.

Scary isn't it. My W runs on emotions, me logic. So hard to apply logic to a illogical person. I quit bothering after awhile, just gave me a headache and the realization I could never figure it out. Hang in there, we got your back or your six if you are militarily inclined.

If if were me, I would not send any texts. Phone calls or pretty much anything unless it was necessary or dealt with the K's.



This just stuck out. Since I am apparently a youtube type of person here is the link. Maybe a good memory or we cops have to have something to do when we are bored.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gELhNbDcLE0

h4h,

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with loving your WIFE for better or for worse. And, feeling good about yourself is really good...probably feeling that way because you know what you gotta do now and are doing it.

Careful with B. It's a slow fade.

The text. You said one of the things she said before is that you lost your sense of humor so I can see why you want to send them. If you believe it is a loving action to her, go ahead and send it. You don't want to become in the "friend" catagory where the only thing you send are joke texts and forwarded email jokes, though.

I so wish you would see that movie. It would get you in the right frame of mind, I think. A peace.

Oh, and yenko....hey you.....you're good!

I'll make plans to see the movie. Maybe next weekend.

No texts or anything to the wife today. We spoke today when she called the kids tonight while we were eating. She reminded D11 to call her before going to bed. D11 did and had to leave a VM because she didn't answer her cell. The wife called back about 10 minutes later and I again just answered and got the phone to D11.

I have ALL my kids tonight and the same tomorrow, as usual. With my pull back from her and me having the kids, I'm sure gives her the opportunity for some good "quality time" with OM. No kids to deal with.

We'll see what he attempts to leave behind this time.

I almost forwarded her an inspirational email that Y sent to me, but I decided against it. Gonna try to see how long I can keep up this pull back. Your right Beej, I don't think I want to fall into the friend catagory just yet.

I can't believe that for someone that wanted out of our marriage so bad, why hasn't she filed anything? I'm SURE OM would pay for it. Hell, if it were me, I would. But then again, he is still married too as far as I know. She even brought up one night how we could do the paperwork ourselves and save a ton. I didn't disagree with her. I posed that question to her aunt the other day. She said it was probably because of the cost involved. I'm just not sure.

I wonder what they discuss. I wonder what he tells her. I wonder what she tells him.

It's only natural to wonder, I think. As long as I don't obsess about it. I'm past that now, anyway.

This guy has to have some weaknesses to exploit! Status with his wife....parents.....employment etc. How far away does he live? You don't have to use the info yet....just accumulate it. Then when the time is right...strike and show no mercy.

On another note........Taco Bell is giving a free taco for everyone in the US because there was a stolen base today in the World Series. Nov 28TH between 2pm and 6pm. I bring this up because I hate it when they do this and put the date out a month out, when no one will remember.

I know most everything that I need to know about him. At least info from about a year ago. I know his wife's name, I know his address, I know what he drives, I know where he works, I know his cell, home and work phone nubmer, I know his wife's cell phone number now, I know his parents name, I know his birthday, I know how much his house is worth, its square footage, I know it is in both his and his wifes name, I know who holds the mortgage, I know his wifes age and her nickname. I also know that he owns a small ranch somewhere. I know that he likes to hunt and fish. I also know that he once started a small business.

The day I found the shaving bag at the apartment, I also found an empty Praxair dispenser in the bathroom trash. The wife and kids don't need that stuff, so I guess I know that dumb ass f*cktard is asthmatic, too.

I know he can't spell worth a sh*t because I once found a note telling her that "...she makes him hole". Stupid ass.

He is a complete opposite of me and he is also very different from the wife, although she ain't no Rhode's scholar herself, but she has admitted before, actually complained, about how different they were.

I think he makes her laugh because he's a f*cking simpleton.

He is about a 20 to 25 minute drive from the wife's apartment. The only thing I'm not sure of anymore is if he is separated. The wife once told me he was, but not sure now. She lied to her aunt several months ago and told HER that he was already divorced and had no kids. I believe he does have kids, but not 100% sure.

I think someone asked me yesterday and I forgot to answer. OM turned 38 in May.

Info like THAT, ILF?

And sorry, but being of Spanish decent(Canary Islands actually)and being born and raised in San Antonio, I can't stomache Taco Bell very well. I'm more into the authentic or TexMex.

But be my guest. Free is free.

Hey H4H.

Just doing some quick fly-bys. Had a busy night with K's. Now I am relaxing with a rum and pineapple-orange-banana juice!

You just keep doing what you are. YOU ARE GETTING STRONGER EACH DAY. Little slip ups cannot change that.

Stay strong!

Show off!!!

1. I would find out the real status of his marriage/divorce.

2. Has he cheated on his wife before? His wife can be a great source of info.

3. Financial situation....by your posts he doesn't appear to be doing the sugar daddy routine with money. Your wife could be refusing.

4. Make night visits with the kids with say pizza or other food to have "Family Time".

5. Does he have kids? At 38 he might want some. Does your wife want anymore? Tubes tied etc

In the end all this may be for naught if she just wants out. You will have to weigh how to use the info or the sources (his wife) and how your wife will react to your snooping.